My boyfriend is a Christian and religion is very important to him.
I respect this, as I would with anyone.
However, I didn't grow up in church or was raised under any relgion. As I've grown I've learned about God by reading the Bible and discussing things with friends and I believe in Him. I have strong morals and I wasn't raised into a bad person.
My problem is that I'm afraid that when my boyfriend learns this that he won't like me as much or won't even want to be with me, how can I handle this?
My last ex dumped me because of this same reason and because his parents didn't like that I didn't go to church. I fear that this will happen many times again.
2007-02-28 15:27:40 · 16 answers · asked by clarigirl06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can have a relationship with someone like u.
2007-02-28 15:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by US Cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just as good as the people you are talking about...don't let anyone put you down. They have no reason to judge you leave that to God. Some Christians are extreme in their thinking and if you marry into a family who are this way you might end up with problems if you do not agree with them. So make sure whoever you decide to marry and live with for the rest of your life you have an understanding about your religious beliefs. It's very important to think along the same lines or there can be major problems especially if children are involved. Hold your head high and be the best you can be...don't let anyone make you feel less of a person sometimes people enjoy putting others down because they do not fit a mold...that they think is necessary. Best wishes to you....Mama Jazzy Geri
2007-02-28 23:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a problem, but on the other hand if you are casual dating then it might not be. Religion comes into play in serious relationship, were discussions of marriage, children and family take place. Generally, the couple tends to believe the same things; rather then something separate.
Even if he does dump you b/c you don't believe in the same thing, consider it good. You probably saved yourself some heartache. If he won't respect your religion, then find someone else that believes the same thing as you, or respects your different view on religion.
2007-02-28 23:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not found inside of a church but in the heart of the true christian and if this is beyond anyone understanding then they aren't a true christian! Jesus lives inside the very heart of the true believer and therefore the assembly is just another way of telling others of your belief but life is the real way that the true christian expresses themselves. Have a very fine day!
2007-02-28 23:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It puzzles me why people pick people with opposing belifs to be with for its bound to cause conflict. If you truly Love your boyfriend and you know that his faith is very important to him and that he attnds church then either explain you do not go to church and find someone that does not go to church either or take an interest in your boyfriend and make a visit to his church-attend a service with him for you might just enjoy sharing this important part of his life. If you expect him or anyone else to give up church for you or want a partner that he (they)cannot share their faith with and will even though they are in a relationship go to church by himself,by themselves then your expectation is Unrealistic and a bit selfish.Since you've been "dumped"for this reason before and fear it happening again and again why do you involve yourself with a church going practicing Christian-find a atheist or Christian who does not attend church a lukewarm Christian.You should know that Faith/Church are THE Major Part of ones life and one wants to share /should be able to share with ones partner.You need to examine why you keep picking boyfriends with whom you are always having the samea conflict with-one of faith and going to church-strange.
2007-02-28 23:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st - Tell him how you feel. Don't wait for him to find out on his own. Explain to him how you were raised and how you have learned about God. Being a good Christian boy he should understand and offer his support.
2nd - Start attending church. Show him that you are willing to learn.
Together you and your boyfriend can conquer this fear you have.
2007-02-28 23:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by Michael H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to decide what is importent to you. Is religion importent? is acceptance important? Would be being in a religion and being with someone be what you want? It all comes down what's importent to you.
either way, you need to talk to him about it. because the longer it goes on, and if he finds out from someone else, that itself could make him upset. wether or not he cares about your religion
2007-02-28 23:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him about it now. and if he asks u to go to church with him, accept it to show that u really believe in God and that ur willing to take ur beliefs into becoming a better christian too with God through the bible.
2007-02-28 23:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by evanescent_eclipse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you any less because of religion then I suggest you dump him. He should respect your decision not to go to church. If he doesn't he's not the one you want.
2007-02-28 23:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a keeper so don't let him go. Let him know that you are trying to be the kind of person he is too. But, don't criticize him though. As for his parents, be repectful and polite and show them that you want to be with his son and God.
2007-02-28 23:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about whether this guy is someone that you will potentially marry, cuz if not, then he's not even worth it. if he really liked/loved you, he wouldnt dump you just because his parents dont like you or just because you dont go to church. if this keeps happening then stop dating "Bible-beaters."
2007-02-28 23:32:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋