Whenever I start dating someone new, it's great for a few weeks & then I find myself subconsciously pulling away. I always try to make sure I don't seem more into him than he is into me or "too clingy." I still play too much "hard to get" even when we've established that we like each other. When there is mutual attraction between me & a guy, my initial preconceived assumption is always just have fun, it's not going to go anywhere. I rarely give guys a chance & rarely allow myself to have feelings for someone. Even with guys I really like I can't seem to let them know I do. When I really like a guy I'm dating, I act like I don't care for him & when he gets distant, I get mad & end up becoming really attached to him for a long time! (If this was commitment phobia, wouldn't I not like the same guy for so long?)
I'd like to be in a relationship but I seem to subconsciously keep sabotaging it! Why do I do this? How can I get myself to stop? (if this helps, I'm only 23 and a girl!)
2007-02-28 15:24:50 · 2 answers · asked by laughterisnaturescure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I definitely don't think I'm too immature. Plus I'm not looking for someone to marry necessarily but I don't think there's anything wrong with being in a relationship. I wanna know how to get past this initial pretending I don't care without seeming like I care too much (which by the way plays out in many aspects of my life).
2007-02-28 17:59:41 · update #1
You may be sabotaging your relationships for several reasons;
Due to self-esteem issues sometimes we can feel that if someone is interested in us there must be something wrong with them and when the table turns becuz we have pushed them away and now they are no longer interested in us, we are now interested in them... OR... you could be doing it becuz your heart knows you have not yet met your one true love...Join a Christian Youth Group; pray; God promises us our hearts desires ...you will meet tons of guy/girl friends who are finding these answers and many more...Don't wait...
It's never too late.
Sista C
2007-02-28 15:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by sista c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young and probably imature for any kind of lasting relationship. And so what, enjoy what you are you are young and you will change when you change. Enjoy, the fruit on the table, stay out of the store.
2007-02-28 23:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by sashali 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋