so I've loved my best guy friend for about 3 years and I've never had the courage to tell him untill two last friday. actually i had my best friend tell him because i'm really shy, when she told him he didn't say anything about it. in fact he hasn't said anything about it at all. yesturday he didn't say anything at all. but every other day including today was just like nothing happened. i really don't know what to think. Should i confront him about it or just let things unfold?
2007-02-28 15:17:04 · 11 answers · asked by hannah r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Youneed to buy and read a book call The Rules. (Time tested rules for capturing Mr. Right) And The Rules 2. IBy Sherrie Shneider and Ellen Fein. In there, you will learn exactly what to do and in the second book, it says what to do if you are in love with your best friend-How to turn a friend into a boyfriend.
A little hint: what NOT to do is TELL HIM!
Don't do anything else! Pretend your friend never said anything and deny it if it ever comes up. Act cool and pretend you have no idea she did that.
Go get those books!!! They really work!
2007-02-28 15:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Instant Justice 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were you go for it don't wait for things to unfold this would take time and may severe your relationship with your best guy...
Of and don't use you friends as a beacon or bridge this would complicate things and would make what you want to say come out wrong... If you really love him tell him in his face this would make things work out for you for the better...
Being a guy and all if a friend of the "best female friend" comes to me and tells me that my "best female friend" wants to tell me that she likes me or loves me I would certainly have doubts about it since it didn't come from her but the thought would make me feel awkward when im near her so you should go for it and talk to him and tell him in person...
Any girl that confessess that way for me especially if we've known each other for so long and finally realize what she truly feels I would freak out but having that knowledge I would love her more than she would expect....
this is taking too long but from what I said go for it... im pretty sure he'll like it more and would appreciate it more if it came from you... ^_^
Good Luck and I hope you find the courage! ^_^
2007-02-28 15:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jean Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should he think? It didn't mean enough to you, for you to say it to him. I wouldn't be all that impressed if I got the news, 2nd hand, that someone loved me.
If you've known the guy 3 yrs, what's there to be shy around him about?
If I were you, I'd let the issue go. If you seriously trust that your friend told him then he's aware of how you feel...if he hasn't indicated something similar toward you (even before your friend told him) then chances are he's just not feelin' it. Let the friendship remain as it's been or risk damaging it by pressing the "love" issue.
2007-02-28 15:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's your best friend he may just be shocked as to what he just found out. Give him time to think about what he now knows and go from there. IF you feel the need to confront him, go right ahead. He is your friend after all! Bravo for telling him. I'm sure it was hard but I'm sure a weight was lifted off your shoulders. Hang in there and have the talk you both need to have. I'm sure it will works itself out in the end.
2007-02-28 15:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...you should have told him yourself. That could be a big reason why he hasn't said anything. Maybe he doesn't believe it or wants to hear it from you! Not your friend. And if he loves you back, don't you think he'd rather say it to you....and not your friend? I mean, its about the 2 of you..not the other person. If he doesn't seem bothered....either bring it up again..You this time..or let it go. Don't push it, if he doesn't feel that way.
2007-02-28 15:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by tadreams95 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey anyways you guys are good pals ... jus say it to him in a casual conversation ... am sure he's gonna like your openess .. it wont cause any harm letting him know tht you love him ...
Maybe he wants you to tell him directly ... Jus tell whts thr on your mind .. Itz gonna work wonders !!
2007-02-28 15:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by betz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he felt the same way, he would have said something. Hopefully, with time, the awkwardness will go away. He is probably embarrassed for you if he isn't saying anything.
2007-02-28 15:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm this is hard but my best friend is going through something similar....my advise would be to email him about it and if he doesn't reply ..bring the topic up if you to are alone and if he tries to change the subject tell him that you know its oucuard but you really want to know....good luck!!!!!
2007-02-28 15:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let things unfold. theres always a plan for you.
2007-02-28 15:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i can't imagine what i'd do if someone ran up to me and told me someone else loved me...
2007-02-28 15:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by untuhchabul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋