A year ago my sister set up a breakfast date with a friend of hers for me to meet. Very informal my sister, niece, my mom, me, my son and him all met we had a very nice time cahtting. He drove over an hour to meet for breakfast and then had to drive back to get to work. Six months later my sister called to let me know he was near and he wanted to see me. So he came over. We talked all night he has my phone # memorized and email but said he was too shy to call. For 1 1/2 months we talked every day and I was away and when I got home we hooked up again and he was back in the area (he works away 21 days straight and then has 7 days off) We had a good evening and we talked off and on and then he just quit calling... Is he shy again or just not interested.. please help..It's been since thanksgiving evening since we talked. My sister said life has just been really messed up for him.. should i just forget about him? We have a simular past and have both been married before.
2007-02-28 15:15:49 · 9 answers · asked by blondie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you two had hit it off so well everyday for 40+days straight, then he should leave some kind of message before now. He sounded like he was very intrested if he would go through the trouble of meeting up for the initial breakfast and then again when sis told you he was in the neighborhood and you two talked all night.
I am shy too, but at least I would leave a text every few days just to say hi or check and see how you were doing on some weekends. If I was interested in someone, there's no ways I would leave them hangin' for 4mos (since Thanksgiving, right?). It really does sound like he has some issues beyond the shy card and the 21-day work schedule. I work 7on (84hrs that week) and then get 7off and still find enough time to call or text a few messages in between shifts or days off. It doesn't take much effort to leave a message just to say hello or asking how your weekend went.
You might have to continue with your trek. Seek someone closer and enjoy the time together and just let it work itself out. There's plenty of guys around who would love a chance to bring a smile to you. Good luck =)
2007-02-28 15:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is probably not interested anymore, and he does not want to hurt your feelings. If he was shy to call you for six months, I can gaurantee he is too shy to possibly hurt your feelings by saying he is no longer interested. The whole "my life has been messed up" excuse is not acceptable. If he was interested in you, he would call and let you know that he is going through things and kinda just wants to be alone right now. People that don't have the courage to say what they really mean will hide behind an excuse like that.
I would move on dear. If he can't give you the time of day to call and tell you whats going on, he does not deserve someone to wait around for him. I hope everything works out for you. Take care.
2007-02-28 15:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the only way to know for sure is to be direct. Ask him if he is interested. Tell him you need to know. Meanwhile, keep searching for someone else Life is too short. Go to Match.com or Yahoo Personals. It worked for me. I have been on dates from these services. Just make sure you first meet at a public place like a busy restaurant. Then, if you like the person, go to www.intelius.com and pay for a background check.
This is worth it.
2007-02-28 15:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by rasckal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he works 21 days straight and travels you can bet he has another woman on the side. If you meant anything to him he would take the time to keep in touch with you. The shy thing sounds like BS.
2007-02-28 15:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Enjoying Life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel strong enough call the man and see what's happening and how he feels about you, Sometimes if the person is worth it steps need to be taken. If you are not happy with his answers then there may be one or even two single men that could still make you smile and are worth sharing your life with! luck.
2007-02-28 15:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time ... worse case scenario you have made a good friend. In the meantime continue dating and have fun.
2007-02-28 15:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on your son... (unless he is over 18) don't complicate your life with people coming and going until he is up and out of the house...that's my advise!
2007-02-28 15:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by katiebug 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
email him and ask if he is ok and how he has been. obviously if u get no response, he has left the building!
2007-02-28 15:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sounds as if he has to much baggage, its time to move on.
2007-02-28 15:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋