i have a half sister that was black sheeped by my family about 10 years ago, when i was 8 and she was ten.... i recently got a phone number of hers and i desperately want to call it, but i am SOOO scared or rejection. now im 20 and shes about 22. should i call her? and what should i say????? please help me im so sad....
2007-02-28 15:12:45 · 18 answers · asked by Uranium_Lopez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
did i mention that she hated me and was jelious of me when we were younger because my dad chose my mom and not hers? and her mom is the minipulative type that would most likely poison her mind against me as well as my dad? ......i just dont know....
2007-02-28 15:22:28 · update #1
Just give her all call,you never know what will happen unless you try!Whether you are rejected to or not at least your mind could be more at ease knowing you gave it a shot.I doubt her anger is directed towards you!!Good Luck!!
2007-02-28 15:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of time has passed. If there was no actual bad blood between you two personally (your moms aside), then you should pick up at the phone and call. At least you can tell yourself that you gave it a chance.
However, be emotionally prepared for it to go both ways. Like I said, 10 years is a long time. She can be in a better place now that she would welcome you back in her life and you can start building a relationship as sisters. But hey, the worse that can happen is she tells you she is not interested. Then you can put that phone number in the drawer and tell yourself you tried.
2007-02-28 23:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sami Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both grown now and hopefully mature enough to have a sisterly relationship. Family is where it is at. Most all of my family is gone except for my two brothers. One is 2,500 miles away and doesn't call me or my other brother. We see him when I make all the arrangements of us having any kind of reunion. Usually it ends up being years between visits. My little brother lives 6 1/2 hours away and we see each other (even if we have to meet in the middle for a weekend) at least 4 times a year. My younger brother and I don't have a lot of money. Big brother owns his own business and can go anywhere anytime. I would give anything to be close to both of them.
2007-03-04 23:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by nanatoseven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would probably be delighted to hear from you. It was not your fault that this thing was done to her, you were a little girl yourself. I would say go for it, a chance of rejection is something that you'll have to take in order to make contact. Just take a deep breath and pick up the phone, you never know what you will be missing out on if you dont.
2007-02-28 23:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by scottishonion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that not everyone in the family wanted to lose that connection with her... least of all you; and remember... you were very young when it happened and not responsible for the decisions others may have placed on you! You are sisters in the eyes of god, and only he should pass judgement. I personally feel you should try and make a connection with her if your intentions are sincere. You have less to lose than she does as... she could be rejected by her family (members) a second time.
2007-02-28 23:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kenner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say hello and I miss you. You'll be chatting up old times in no time. Just lost my "sister" this week and I hadn't spoken to her in
eleven years... she moved and left no forwarding address. She never called any one in the family anymore, so we fell out of touch. So sad, she was often on my mind. It pained me that she never met my twins. When I spoke to her son ( who happened to look up people in an old phone book of hers after she died) it wound up that she lived a mile from my ex husband and that she waitressed at a diner that he and my kids frequented which is owned by her ex-husband. She did meet my kids but did not realize that they were MY kids and that they were directly related to her. Still I am pleased that they met. CALL HER, DO NOT WASTE even another DAY!!!!
2007-02-28 23:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberlee Ann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call her. Ask how she's doing, tell her you're concerned and want to be friends, if that's what yer thinking. She may be wishing someone like U would call. She may need a friend/sister. If she's not interested then its her loss. You gave your best effort and cared. Maybe someday it will make a difference but for now U can go on.
2007-02-28 23:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether she rejects me or not I would still call her. At least you will have nothing to remain feeling guilty about. Tell her you miss and love her and was interesting in knowing how she is doing.
Ask could you come over or ask your sister to go out to lunch or dinner and talk things over.
2007-02-28 23:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you were 8 the last time she saw you. She's now 22. If she's worthy of your time, she's got to have realized that an 8-year-old can't be as bad as her father's jilted ex told her.
I'd give it a try. And good luck.
2007-03-04 19:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by sdc_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think after 12 years she would be over that but I don't know, anyway, You should call her if you really want to you should. Just say hi and tell her who you are and just try to get into a conversation.
2007-02-28 23:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋