there is this girl i realy realy realy realy like and if i ask her out i know she will say no! i dont know how to ask her. plz help
2007-02-28 14:59:00 · 12 answers · asked by I A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask anyway. Now, if she really does not like you and makes that clear, then don't be a stalker. But I had a man win me over because he asked me out and continued to ask me out. He popped into this club once in a while and was always pleasant and never too serious. The first time, I told him I had a boyfriend, and he said, "Bring him along." I had to laugh. I was a black jack dealer. He would play and tip me hundred dollar bills. Six months later, when I was single again, I finally went out with him. We were together for four years and remained friends for the next six years. In the end, it was better not to get married as our cultures were very different, but we almost got married. My point is, keep it light. Don't be dejected if she says no. Smile and say, "Ok. But I'm gonna ask you again next time I see you."
Women are different than men. Men seem to really want women that are a challenge, and they must be attracted to them at first. Women want a man who is good to them. When I first met my guy, I didn't find him attractive, but I grew to think he was the sexiest man on earth. He was so good to me, I eventually loved him very much and still do today although we are not together. A woman can learn to love a man who is good to her.
In the meantime, be the best you you can be. Get a sylish haircut. Wear stylish clothes. Be cool. Whatever you have to do to be the very best you. Not something other than you, just the best you. And you will have a shot.
2007-02-28 15:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by Instant Justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that you're relatively young. Highschool? What I suggest is that you find a common interest and then find a way to "meet" her there for some reason. Example: lets say you both are in science together and you have an assignment that requires some special supplies. Strike up a loose conversation (short and sweet) asking her if she understands this assignment...where is she going to find the supplies she needs...you know this really neat shop that has everything, etc. Then wind it up with, "you know, if you'd like I'll be glad to meet you there, say around 10am Sat and help you gather everything you'll need..." THEN when you get there at 10am Sat you help her then say something light about grabbing a quick bite before heading home to work on your project, etc and say to her, "hey, you wanna grab something with me??" You just keep it layed back and easy...no mention of a DATE. Good luck...just be a little creative. It works! My high school sweetheart of 4 years (that was a very long time ago) pulled it on me!!
2007-02-28 15:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you get a few friends together for like bowling, movies or something to do together as a small group? It would not seem so "obvious" to her, especially if they are friends for both of you. Plus, it makes it a lot more comfortable for everyone. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-28 15:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you haven't asked her yet then how do you know she will turn you down? Girls really like guys who are confident, so pull yourself together and ask her out. Who knows she maybe waiting on you to make the first move. :-)
Good Luck
2007-02-28 15:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Neptune 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that she'll say no? Whatever the case may be, if you are absolutely sure that she'll say no, don't ask her--- save yourself the heartache.
However, if there's a glimmer of chance that she'll say yes.. talk to her.. get to know her. Then you ask her out. Ask her out to a movie or something.
2007-02-28 15:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Friend 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are lacking self confidence. There is no trick to asking a girl out. Just call her and ask,or when you see her then ask her out when you do tell her where you want to take her. ex: Would you like to go to see a movie with me? or I would love to take you out to dinner will you please go with me? Good luck.
2007-02-28 15:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know for sure that she's gonna say no? maybe your just not seeing the little bit of hope you have becuase your too worried and fear rejection. but if you know for a fact that she's gonna say no then theres no reason to waste your breath on her.
2007-03-01 14:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jasety D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest about how you feel and if she has a heart she will be honest with you as well .... i think it would be nice to tell her that you like her and would love to give you and her a try if she says no as her to tell you why she won't go out with you and if she says she don't know then she don't like you that's all i can say
2007-02-28 15:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should start out as friends, to get to know her a little more then ask.
2007-02-28 15:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by tish200805 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just ask her out. how do you know that she will say no?
meet her as if by chance, then be sincere in asking.(that's a method i learned from a close friend)
2007-02-28 15:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by wordsofapoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋