Is there no sexual chemistry or attraction ot am i just afraid????

Question

I've been getting close to a man who i am not sure if there is chemistry or not. I really like him and when i think about him i feel all smiley and happy, but i dont really find him physically attractive. Sometimes i think there is something there, sometimes i think it would be bad to get into something with him, being so unsure. We seriously get each other and i like being around him, but i cant tell if there is any sexual chemistry or not!!! I think part of me is scared because it is so real and i would have to make a real commitment. Am i just making excuses either way??? Without being aware we have already sort of started to date. We do b/f g/f stuff and we speak everyday. I dont want to lead him on and hurt him. What should i do?? HELP

Answer 1

If you arent sure if theres any chemistry.. there isnt..
If you are afraid.. you'll know that too.. the two arent even close to each other..

You mentioned that Comittment word.. UGHHH! No wonder you are confused.. thats a whole nuther thing and way later down the road..

My judgement? there isnt an chemistry.. and thats that.. believe me it dosent always happen... I have several girls i'm friends with but sexual chemistry?? Umm no.. and most of em are REALLY REALLY super cute.. thers just no chemistry.. and well thats that.. what can i say? (cept they shouldda dyed thier hair black LOL one of my big things hehehe)

Answer 2

if you have feelings for him.. and since he makes you smilely and happy you obviously Do... then you sound like you may be making excuses. also physical attraction should not play the major role.. you have gotten to know what's on this guy's Inside and have gotten closer to him and like what's there. sure, sexual chemistry has to play a part if you want to do anything physical with him and stuff.. that's gotta be there so that you'll want to do that. i don't know what you mean by you do bf gf stuff.. because if you mean that you hold hands and kiss already or anything then there has to be at least Some physical attraction there. i think that if you are questioning if there is chemistry and don't know for sure, that there probably is. that is the first stage: denial. just LET YOURSELF BE HAPPY! if he makes you happy then what's wrong with going for something good? you could miss out and regret it later, just because you were acting kindof "shallow-ish" if you really just think of him as a friend though and want nothing more then TELL HIM and Don't lead him on just for the sole fact that You Like The Way It Feels That Someone Likes You and pays attention to you. you have to go with your heart.. not your hormones.. do what's best for both of you.

Answer 3

Having that type of chemistry isn't continually a one hundred% ensure that the sex will be tremendous, notwithstanding it absolutely would not harm your possibilities and its a large plus. have you ever talked to this guy yet? Why no longer make the first pass?

Answer 4

If there was sexual chemistry, you would know it IMMEDIATELY. You would feel it every time you looked at him, every time you thought about him and, most importantly, every time you touched him. Chemistry is one of those confusing things that often make no sense at all. Sometimes we're instantly attracted to people who we would expect to be attracted to and, other times, we're attracted to people we would NEVER think we'd feel that way about... its aaaall in the chemistry.

Answer 5

Has nothing to do with being scared. Chemistry is like fireworks and you might hope it is there, but you can't make it be there.

So trust in that it will happen when you meet the right person

Answer 6

What are you scared of? Relationships aren't supposed to be frightening, they are supposed to be fun! What's the committment issue? So you commit to seeing just him as long as it's good and right for you both...when it isn't, and cannot be fixed (if that occurs), you go your separate ways...it's not like life in prison...you are free to go your own way at any time, hopefully not without letting him know...

If you are that scared to date, perhaps you shouldn't until you get over the fear of committment or whatever the issue is...

Answer 7

I think you had best decide on this very soon. Otherwise you could be heading for disaster. Good Luck

Answer 8

if you enjoy his company then that should attract you. if you think this relationship is wrong to start then you should end it instead of going on with it. i would stop unless you want to hurt this guy

Answer 9

are you under ten yrs old you know when there is chemistry because I want to break her back and send her walkin home sideways ... cold blooooooooooooodddeddddddddd.