What can I do to meet a genuine woman who's not superficial?

Question

It sounds mysoginistic, but it's not. I've been out 4 times in the past 2 months with different women I just met, for the most part I really hit it off with each of them, and the dates were very fun and comfortable, every single one of them seemed interested that I was a student working towards a career, but they all immediately lost interest when they found out that all I am currently is a bottom rung employee just scraping by while I go to school.

It's beginning to become very disheartening, and though I try to tell myself otherwise, it's seemed to me that all these girls were really interested in was the money that I'm making. In less than a year or so I'll actually be making great money, when that day comes I don't want a woman that I meet to be interested in my wallet. Does anyone out there have any tips for me?

Answer 1

I hear you. I find that some men are just as bad as the women you describe. I make about my state's median wage (which makes me richer than roughly half the people in Pennsylvania), but for some reason, the men who share my interests tend to earn much more. (This may be because I am vegetarian and vegetarians tend to be wealthier.) The first thing they want to know, after they learn of my unspectacular job, is whether or not I am planning to do something more lucrative, and, if so, when. (They don't specifically mention money, but they use euphemisms like "aspirations" and "ambitions.") Most are willing to go on a date or two with me, anyway, but it can be a problem in the long term.

I think you just have to keep looking. A good idea may be to become involved in social change or charitable work. You'll meet a large number of good-hearted women that way.

Two more things:

1) Try hard not to have a negative attitude. I, too, have found myself bemoaning the difficulting of meeting a guy "who is isn't a total a**hole" or some similar epithet, but it's important not to be heard saying that. If we speak too much about our negative experiences, we can be viewed as difficult to please or, in some way, damaged.

2) Make sure you have plenty to offer without money. Good manners, a genuine interest in the other person, the ability to think of fun things to do that don't cost a lot, and good looks/grooming are all important.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I would suggest maybe someone a little older than you that is goal oriented. Maybe you are looking a bit too hard. I know if I met someone that knew what they wanted for the future and they were working towards a wondeful career, then I would be excited for them. Someone that has already been through or is going through the same thing you are would understand that a great career doesn't just happen over night. You're on the right path! Just do what you're doing...the right woman will come to you when you least expect it.

Answer 3

My tips are simple. Never tell ANYONE how much you make. It's no one's business. Also, never go after anyone for anything but their personality...perhaps you should pick a bit more carefully? AFterall, it takes 2 to tango.

I have a feeling they didn't lose interest in you due to the fact you were a "bottom rung employee just scraping by". Look, they knew you were a student working towards a career when they met you...obviously they knew from the beginning you didn't have much to offer financially for them. So, my dear it isn't about money it's about YOU.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Not all girls are superficial- the cold, hard reality is that most are, though. Just keep going like you are, you seem to be a pretty good judge of character. Eventually you'll find a girl that will want you for YOU and your personality and everything else you have to offer. Money doesnt make anybody happy- it may make things easier, but not happier. Just be patient.

Answer 6

Psychologist will tell you we seem to be attracted to a particular type of person, and we do it over and over. I have tried everything even trying to date someone totally opposite, and someone i was not attracted to. This didn't work either.

Today i read our society is ME< MYSELF, AND I We have children being raised since 70"s as if they are very special. They say this is hard to deal with.

So my answer is: It is just hard to meet the right person, they say you can go through 100 people before meeting someone you like. So keep trying i guess. Lots of luck

Answer 7

Good luck is right. It seems like the younger women are looking for security more than true love or a soul mate. But I shouldn't generalize. Just keep on doing what your doing. It sounds like you are a nice guy with a good personality and sooner and we hope rather than later you'll meet someone whose willing to work with someone to build a future as opposed to stepping into a bank. Don't be cynical, but don't settle, either. Good luck.

Answer 8

Don't always go for the looks, go for a girl thats smart, i mean if those girls just lost interest because your working to go to school, they should try it. Theres nothing wrong with barely scraping by as a student, its natural, and don't tell yourself natural, be respectful to every girl you meet, believe me thats what every girl wants. Most girls(if their not superficial) aren't interested in money, it just sounds like you've had bad luck so far, but don't give up!

Answer 9

Find a girl who is independent and low maintenance. Also, a person who does not care about your finances, but more about you. A lot of women still want a man to provide for them. Don' t worry so much about those girls and just think about your career. You'll meet the right one soon.

Answer 10

What can any of us do? It's not really something that we can control, I'm afraid. I guess the best answer is to wait and pray, if you're a praying man. In the meantime, don't lose heart... there is someone out there for you, but for lack of a less overused cliche, Rome wasn't built in a day. Takes time, unfortunately.

God bless.