My bf and I got into a really big fight. I even hit him a couple times. But he said he can't forgive right now but he's gonna come back but not now. I feel as if he hates me. He says that he doesn't understand how the same hands that can love him can also hurt him. And what makes it even worse is that his ex is trying to get back with him and he talks to her alot now that he's not talking to me. I wanna know if he could ever forgive me and will he come back. Please help.
2007-02-28 14:28:58 · 25 answers · asked by Drew's Wifey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I DON'T KNOW HOW OLD YOU ARE, BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU TWO WERE VERY INVOLVED. TAKE THINGS SLOW AND EASY. IF IT IS MEANT TO BE, YOU WILL BE TOGETHER. WE NEED TO BE CAUTIOUS WHEN WE ARGUE. THINGS THAT ARE SAID AND DONE IN ANGER WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO BE TAKEN BACK. I KNOW. I HAD TO LEARN THIS SAME LESSON THE HARD WAY. I LOST A LOVE AND I ALSO LOST MY BEST FRIEND. I LEARNED THOUGH, THAT HAD HE REALLY LOVED ME HE WOULD HAVE FORGIVEN ME AND WE WOULD HAVE BEEN TOGETHER TODAY. IT JUST WASN'T MEANT TO BE.
2007-02-28 14:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by MS. PEG 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a good chance that he will end up forgiving you. Sometimes we all do something we regret in an argument. If he loves you he just needs some time to cool off his anger. It is a major blow to a mans ego to be hit by a girl. But if he does come back you have to learn how to control your anger or else it will happen again and then he may not come back. Give him a couple of days to get over it, and then apologize again and tell him that you are so sorry and that you never meant to let anything happen like that. Also say something along the lines of I know if I was in your shoes I would have trouble forgiving myself. By saying something like that it sounds like you have done some soul searching and have grown from this experience. Men like that kinda thing. Though I must warn you that the ex appearing in the picture at this time is very dangerous for you. If he does come back you need to be extra sweet for a while until she is out of the picture. Good luck and remember to keep your cool in the future.
2007-02-28 22:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's with all the girls physically hitting their bf's or getting amused by kicking boys lately? I don't know if he hates you, but you hurt him. Not physically, probably, but emotionally. Women can hurt men emotionally in just as great a way as men can do to women. Who knows! It may even be worse since men aren't accustomed to dealing and talking about their feelings.
Imagine if your bf physically struck you. What would you do and feel? Would you go back to him? What would you want out of him or have him do in order to convince you to return to the relationship if you are hurt and afraid? To earn your trust again? To heal the emotional pain that he did to you?
Think about it that way, and that's the answer to your question.
2007-02-28 22:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by Elisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i see his point how can the hands that love him can hurt him ... but if he loves you he might forgive you in the long run ... just have faith and hope for the best .... if after a few months and he is still gone then he might not be coming back good luck ... and don't take this the wrong way but maybe you should have left your hands to your self and he would not have left but i am not sure what else to say just hope all works out for you good luck
2007-02-28 22:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by shannon l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can only guess but I doubt he will come back. You hurt his pride and masculinity and showed an unladylike side of yourself. Learn from this and don't make the same mistake with your next bf. Get a Thesaurus and arm yourself with words instead of your hands the next fight you get into. Men can't win a verbal war with a lady.
2007-02-28 22:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm thinking this does not sound good for you, because she is most likely saying things about you and how bad it was what you did and all, making it worse, But id say if hadn't been talking to her and had time to cool off and miss you he might have. Sorry
2007-02-28 22:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I am not fortune tellers so we can't tell you if he's coming back. I can say that putting your hands on him was a serious offense and way out of line. Be aware that whenever you put your hands on someone else you have committed the crime of assault and can be arrested and charged.
2007-02-28 22:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by NYGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the strength of your relationship. It always room to improve and we get trapped in our own desires. Listening with the heart some time makes thing easier to perceive. Remember to trust your inner feelings and rely on your heart to guide you through.
2007-02-28 22:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by razual2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you turn it around and ask yourself, if he hit you what would you do? If you were talking to your ex a lot as well, why would you be talking to your ex a lot? Put yourself in his shoes.
2007-02-28 22:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you hit him hard? Sounds like he was looking for a reason to leave
2007-02-28 22:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by anny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋