I hate my Drunk Dad!!?

Question

lately i've realized that i hate my dad evry friday he gets drunk with my uncle and dont stop drinking untill sunday at night when they fall asleep?Every time he gets drunk its like i dont even know him he tells me he doenst love me only my brother . Even when his not drunk i feel as he dosent love me at all it always seems as he prefers my brother way more! I honostly dont get along with my dad. He never tells me he loves me he never wants to hear me talk when the tv is on he totally ignores me and seriously have this agression towards him now. I feel like i dont love him anymore. My family always have there attention on my older brother. and it just makes me feel left out? My mother and i dont really like my father when his drunk his a total jerk. He needs help but so do I? Why do i feel like this? Why does he drink alot?

Answer 1

Please try to find an Alanon or Alateen group to join. They often have meetings at church and other areas. Ask you school counselor to find you a group. Their link is below.

Please find someone--your mom, an uncle, aunt, or grandparent--to tell how you feel about your Dad. Ask for their help in talking to your Dad. If not someone in your family, please talk to the school counselor or a trusted teacher.

Please realize that your Dad won't get better until he decides to--it isn't your fault.

Answer 2

maybe he drinks a lot because there is something going on in his life he wants to forget about for a while. since it sounds like he's drunk for about 3 days, i suggest that you and your mom (and your brother if you want to) go out somewhere and have fun. get
away from him. have you talked to him about how you feel? its okay if you dont feel like you love him anymore! you definately have reason too! i say put your dad in rehab or stop your uncle from coming over!!! id say if you stop your uncle from comiing over, that will help your dad's drinking problem a lot. i hope you figure it out, and i feel sorry for you, but i know you can get over it! good luck, and god bless you.

Answer 3

Your dad needs some serious help to overcome his addition. He is not resonsible for his reaction and he does love you. It is because you are vunerable and not strong to hold up to his reactions. Be strong in mind and start telling him how you feel about his hurtful words and perhaps this will somewhat awaken him when he finds out you care. Now do not forget to tell Dad that you love him and wants to see him do good.

Answer 4

There are lot of people in this world having bad addictions.Even if they want to leave these habits these habits do not leave them.They need help to become clean again.But you should remember one thing that they do not love their kids any less.If you hate your dad,there will be one less reason for him to kick this habit or even to live.

Answer 5

He's mean,selfish,shows favortism, an a alcoholic. I feel so sorry for you. If you were my son I would never treat you like that. I treat all my kids equal.

Answer 6

I wish my father would just fall asleep when he got drunk :S/

Answer 7

please please dont say you hate him because someday something may happen and you will realize that you dont. my father was an alcholic my whole life, he was never around and when he was he was horrible to my mother and my sister and I. but aboit a year ago he was diagnosed with ms, and I realized that if i lost my fathert he I would be devestated. so please dont say you hate him, not matter how much you think you do, something may happen and I bet you dont hate him as much as you say.

Answer 8

he's an alcoholic, and i hope he will go to rehab, and get sober, but its not too likey... go to a meeting of Al-Anon... you will understand a lot better