I really like this guy and he likes me a lot (more than I like him even). I get so excited when he calls or IMs me and I think about him a lot and I create scenes in my head where I talk to him or kiss him or whatever. He makes me happy. But the thing is...
...I feel like I like him a lot more when I'm not with him than when I am with him. When I'm not with him, I'm wishing he was with me or that I could kiss him at that moment, and lots more. But when I am with him, I don't feel that way. I mean, I feel like I like him but just SO MUCH more when I'm not with him. Like for example, one night and even up to now, I've had the hugest urge to just go up to him and kiss him on the mouth - but when I'm WITH him, I don't want to. What's going on?
2007-02-28 14:20:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, you are NOT a bad person. and yes, it's wierd. but i know how it feels. so it's like this. you're craving intimacy. but there isn't particularly anyone you want that WITH. so you've taken someone who's quite nice, possibly the person you like most at the minute, and sorta created feelings that aren't there. so when he's there he doesn't make you feel like you want ot kiss him or whatever, but when he's not there and you want someone to think about and fatasize about, he's the one you think of. it's like there's no one that you're really fixated on at the minute and that's hard for your brain to deal with. it's all good though, cuz it either gets stronger so you start enjoying his presence more, or it just fades away. no harm.
don't worry.
2007-02-28 14:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by smethansmee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously read that crap over then give me the ten points because I was so kind as to only leave those remarks. Do you understand give and take idea. This guy might want to spoil you or not but you obviously have proven you have no problems backing out... not always a good trait either... means same as quiter... rehab is for quiter nothing else in my book ...called I got more time than money honey and it aint funny dummy.
2007-02-28 22:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called emotional instability. How old are you? I was like this in my teen and early 20's. I would be crazy about a guy for a while and for no reason I would stop liking him. He did nothing wrong but I just wasn't emotionally matured enough to control my fickle mind. It goes away with time.
2007-02-28 22:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you like him a lot, it's just that you miss him more when he's not around... and maybe you're too nervous too go up and kiss him when he's actually in front of you, instead of just imagining he's there. you're definitely not a bad person for that!
2007-02-28 22:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by Elissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just feel really shy...you should really get used to talking to him in person so that when you see him again you might not feel like that...thats like the same thing with me... except im sorta unsure whether or not i like this kid or not.
2007-02-28 22:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by (: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe when ur not with him, u trying to envision him as someone he's not. (esp in ur dreams/head) but when ur with him, he's not the same person u 'expected' him to be from ur head. u must know who ur falling in love with: the real him or the imaginary him. good luck.
2007-02-28 22:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by evanescent_eclipse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man... you gota respect peoples questions. sardian
2007-02-28 22:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Matthew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is dumb
2007-02-28 22:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sardine, Private Inbreastigator 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋