My son is not a affectionate little guy. He doesn't tend to like hugs. He does like to be held occasionally, even more when he's sick. Just overall he doesn't tend to ever want to get kiss and hugs from mommy and daddy. Is that normal for boys?
2007-02-28 14:06:37 · 8 answers · asked by BabyQuestions 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I agree with the other respondants. If he is socializing with other children such as taking their toys or playing near them, your son may be going thru a phase. However, if he prefers to play by himself all the time and has limited contact, you should speak with your sons doctors. Social skills is a major component of autism or a pervasive developemental disorder.
2007-02-28 15:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by ma2snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child is unique. He's not a "rocker baby", as we always called the ones that like to be petted. My oldest son didn't want to be cuddled or held that much, but, at 29 years of age, he's huggy everytime he sees me. Just keep giving him the kisses and hugs. Its great you are both such affectionate parents.
2007-02-28 22:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by mop-27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a 17 month old and she was a bit like that as well , the older she gets the more affectionate she is becoming i think as long as your son is normal in other ways IE. talking , walking running ,sleeping, mixing well with other children (playing),he well be fine , if it was me i would take him to the local doctor for a check up, as sometimes lake of affection can he a sign of autism(even very slight autism), but you are he mum and should know he best,good luck
2007-02-28 22:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what you mean by affectionate. Is he not socializing? does he avoid eye contact as well? Not to be alarming but autism is on the rise at an alarming rate and being socially unconnected is a big sign. Take it up with your pediatrician now instead of later.
2007-02-28 22:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal but usually later on than 1. He's not completely unaffectionate though so I don't think it's that serious.is he social? if not then I'd start to worry, anti-social behavior in young children is usually a very bad sign. look out for how he is in other relationships those with adults and other children. Hopefully it could also just be a phase.
2007-02-28 22:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a legitimate concern. I have many questions:
Does he make eye contact?
Does he respond to your voice, and different tones of voice?
Does he show any repetitive behaviors?
How is his sleep pattern?
What is his diet like?
If you do not have any other concerns, I would simple keep an eye on him and continue to offer affection. Some children like light touch and some like deeper pressure.
If any of these questions are difficult for you to answer emotionally. Talk to his doctor, they may not be concerned yet as young as he is but keep asking. Often children with Autism show this type of behavior early on.
2007-03-01 00:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by itchianna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was just saying the same thing about our son the other day. He's so busy exploring and getting into stuff that he doesn't want to cuddle like he did as an infant. Makes you realize just how fast they grow. My suggestion would be to play with him whenever you can, and read to him. Maybe try baby yoga or massage to strengthen your bond.
2007-02-28 23:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by pchiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal, he's probably too busy doing things to want to be held. My daughter is the same, I just enjoy the few hugs I get, even if it is when she's sick or hurt herself!
2007-02-28 22:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by beckyf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋