He is turning 30, 9 yrs older than me. While he is a genuine person, he doesn't have a job currently, is content to sell pot and play video games all night. I dont really care about the pot, but he spends his time with at his friends house and it seems like I have to pull teeth to make time to hang out together, besides sleeping time. I know he would never cheat on me, but he has yet to tell me he will love me forever, and that is very hurtful for me. He is always on his phone. Are these some traits similiar to your boyfriends, are they better, worse? I have never been with anyone before so I dont know if it is normal or not, and I am afraid to leave bc I may never find anything better.
2007-02-28 14:06:14 · 13 answers · asked by ophierose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am not going to criticise anything about your bf because it is his life. but if comes to the relationship, he should think about the other half, dont you think?! he is not living alone but if he decided to go out with you then he should do something about it.
the way you stated his age meaning you are looking for more thing in future, right?!
what i think is you should be honest to yourself and tell him what you want. we cannot live just the feeling of love. if you love yourself, you should find someone who can treat you nice. everyone live with own happiness and it is special but you will find the one that make both of you happy. Good luck!
2007-02-28 14:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by honeycoco23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never say never. If he is 30 that makes you 21. Girl you have lots of time for dating. Dont stick with this guy. I can tell you a guy at 30 with no job, sells pot and plays videos is a loser. Im sorry if this isnt what you want to hear. He has a lot of growing up to do. If he really loved you he would look forward to spending all his time with you not his pot smoking friends. Get rid of him. There are a lot of fish in the sea. GO CATCH ONE
2007-02-28 14:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by itybittykitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 21 and you think you might not be able to do better than this complete loser of a guy? If you have the same problem concerning boyfriends when you're 30, then you should be worried. But right now you still have plenty of time to find someone who is at least decent. So drop him now.
2007-02-28 14:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this isnt what you want to hear but it does not sound good. He sounds like a lazy *** that doesnt have any goals in life. He enjoys spending time with his friends more than you and may only be intrested in you physically. Also who is he on the phone with it sounds like that he is more interested in what he is going to do after he hangs out with you.
2007-02-28 14:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by TCUhornfrog87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so youre 21, u said its the first person youve been with...well he sounds pretty crummy u dont get to spend much time with him he's not particularly ambitious he's content selling weed and has no job. he plays video games i mean what are his goals? you are young and need to expand your horizons go out have fun meet lots of people who are likeminded and not just sitting home selling drugs. did u really have to ask u already know the situation sucks theres better out there for you
2007-02-28 14:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by charli_red1218 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finding something better shouldn't be very hard at all.... But looking foolish for staying with this low-life lazy pot-head may hurt your chances for somebody better. The decent guys would start to question why you'd want to stay with this loser.
2007-02-28 14:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you want better and that his pot selling really does bother you. he say he spends all his time selling pot, playing video games, spending time at a friends' house, is jobless.....sounds like he doesn't love you nor is he worthwhile. a boyfriend SHOULD be a guy who's willing to spend time with his friends and his girlfriend, has a job, cares for his gf, treats his girlfriend better than he treats you.
i'd say drop him like a hot potato!
2007-02-28 14:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't find better than a 30 year-old video-game playing non-commiting lazy boy?! I'm not saying he's not nice, but come on. Free weed though, right? That may be worth something.
2007-02-28 14:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get out of that relationship and move on. You deserve to be the center of attention to your man, not the "dust" on the coffee table. Your man is uninspired and uninterested in anything that would lead to a good life for you, in short, He is a BUM, a Loser, not even CLOSE to what you deserve. if you sell youself short and accept this kind of behavior, you are doomed to a very unhappy life.
2007-02-28 14:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by al b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like it wouldn't be too difficult to get something better!
Only advice I could give would be to talk to him.. tell him how you're feeling.. if he does love you.. then he'll want to change his ways and start spending more time with you!
2007-02-28 14:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋