She's a driven young woman (21) and im 24 (and I am busy and dedicated too), and it's long distance some of the time. While we both like each other, I yearn to commnuicate more than she does a lot more - just random meaningless banter works fine for me, but she's so busy and focused that it's hard to even get that. I really do *need* it - it's stressing me out. She likes me, and does care for me, but her finding time to set aside doesn't happen much during the day. Even a "how are you" cell phone text message works for me, but it's rare with her studying for school. Bascially, I am needier for it than she is. I am in school too, but how can I distract myself enough to stop getting worked up about the lack of communication contact through out the day? We are a new couple, so I think it's a phase, but I need to take a chill pill .. how though?
2007-02-28 14:04:51 · 5 answers · asked by Robbie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should not think such negative thoughts. It seems like both of you are dedicated to this relationship. Would it be worth it to end it because she is paving a future for herself? I don't think so. In the long run, if things work out between you two, then both of you will benefit from all the hard work you are putting in now. Why don't you send her the text message and see if she responds. Plan a spontaneous outing and maybe she will realize how digged up in her work she is, and needs some time out. Good Luck!
2007-02-28 14:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by kyun ho gaya na 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your not busy enough. To really DO WELL it takes a lot of work. Successful people didn't become that just overnight. It take continuous hard work. When your really busy, learning, doing projects- whatever--you'll come together with others who are doing the same thing. Go after something and the someone will probably appear when you least expect it. When one door closes---another one opens---and YOU make it open! Good Luck!
2007-02-28 14:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you know...it is not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be needier than the other...being a woman myself...and with my husband being needier in the affection department than me...I would lean towards saying men are needier...I think that is why so often men roam in a relationship...they constantly need to have their ego's reaffirmed...that is the need you feel to be more connected verbally...it says to you that you are wanted and she hates not being with you...it would make you feel more important to her....but with her being driven (as you say)...you aren't her primary focus at this point in her life. That is not to say she doesn't really like you...so it is up to you what you want at this time (and honestly...she might always be that way)...if you really want someone that is so into you....you risk that it will be someone extremely needy!.....lol.....Good luck.
2007-02-28 14:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went thru the same thing with my bf. (still kinda going thru it) but dont trip about her not caring for u as much as u want. cause wen u finally got her in ur arms, its all worth it.
jus surround urself with crazy loud stupid frens who always get u to laugh. that'll keep u from thinking about her
2007-02-28 14:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand your point she can actually take five minutes to cal or text you i know she can i have been in situation where i have been very busey but i use my ear piecein my phone while i work to call my significant other
2007-02-28 14:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by j w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋