I am almost 22. I dont have much in common w/ most guys my age. I am not interested in getting drunk every weekend and/or sleeping around. I live in a college town and thats the norm so its been very hard for me to find someone I have anything in common with.
I am constantly descirbed as an "old soul" or as "very mature." I am no prude, and I am not boring, just to make that clear.
I am starting to think that maybe I should try to date men that are a little older than me. I just wonder if they will have a problem w/ me being a virgin. Its been a problem w/ guys my age so..Im wondering. I dont want to date an older man that will see my as "childish" which is one of my concerns b/c I dont date alot either.
Maybe I should just more mature/neater? Although I think I already do.
2007-02-28 13:55:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oops..I meant dress more mature/neater
2007-02-28 14:02:47 · update #1
The guys your age may or may not catch up with you. But guys can be just as immature when they are 30 or even 40 +. Age has nothing to do with it and you proved it yourself.
Just be patient and make yourself available. You will naturally attract a compatiable person by being yourself.
Do something out of the ordinary like take classes or join a group that is interested in the same things you are.
As far as the virginity thing, be careful, any man that sees this as a big + is scorecarding or callous.
Taking someone's viginity carries a lot of responsibility with it IMHO. They should be committted to a long term relationship that allows you to have a healthy sexual start.
Best wishes,
2007-02-28 14:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Chris_Tains 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man has a problem with you being a virgin then not the man for you and that has nothing to do with age but Morals for you are obviously saving yourself for marriage and if you do not want to sleep around casually that is your choice to make. To find the man/men that respect morals you must find moral men which obvious you will not find in bars or in a college crowd hangout wher there is a lot of drinking. Try finding community affair functions or even college social functions at a higher level or church functions(Not Corny but most moral people have some kind of faith and attend church)there are a lot of social funtions through churches where the emphasis is meeting like minded people and having fun in wholesome activities. Whatever do not trade your morals for college passes but your morals are a part of you forever and they are commendable/worth having
2007-02-28 14:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a more mature guy or one a few years older might be a good idea. Don't go too much older though (like over 30) or you might have to worry about them being controlling... as in looking for someone younger and more niave to influence and dote on them, when they can't handle women their own age. I've never known guys to have a problem with a girl being a virgin, unless you mean you plan to stay that way. Anyway, just make sure you choose someone who is kind, caring, and respectful.
2007-02-28 14:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by dottidal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i'm an older man and i think ur probally right men or boys dont seem to mature as soon as girls do and alot of times its a better fit with a younger woman and an older man and as far as where an older man would have a problem with u being a virgin i can only speak for myself but i would have no problem with that at all that would tell me that your smart and that u have values and i admire u for it as far as im concerned any guy that would have a problem with that is just a guy that's only after one thing and that's not the kind of guy ur looking for anyway
2007-02-28 14:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by Robert C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 18 and in basic terms date older men. I easily have male friends right here in school, my age, yet do no longer opt for to be on a itemizing of who in simple terms needs in my pants. The oldest guy I dated became into 40 5, and all so some distance have been very respectful, between different issues. It looks such as you may desire to learn why no longer? certainly think of approximately you in terms of what others are searching for, and probably your standards. i'm no longer asserting you may desire to diminish your standards, nor could desire to any lady, yet "waiting for" is a proscribing concept. attractiveness and tolerance can artwork, besides as non degrading compromise. Angel
2016-10-02 03:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol you sound just like me !~ im 23 and find the same problems with people my age. im no virgin as i have had sex with 1 girl who at the time i thought would be my wife. but regardless it is hard to find people our age who are into settling down and being sane and what not.... you could try older folk but i reckon that they will have the same issues with virginity as the younger folk, if not greater issues because they have been having sex and fooling around even longer than the younguns.... just keep lookin, someone will catch your heart
2007-02-28 14:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dated a guy that was 12 yrs senior to me when i was in college, i was 20 but he expected to be intimate and that was cool with time, coz i trusted him, loved him and he did so in return as well..i know what you mean with stag nites and parties etc and not knowing who you're goin to bed with...that's never been my lifestyle and so i never dated anyone in college...i don't think older guys will have problems dating a younger woman, they get flattered but they also have this ego deal that they want to be your first experience...so be wary of that too!
being older, i am sure they'll be settled and mature, hopefully, but ppl are ppl: various...
good luck!
2007-02-28 14:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by ria k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to date older men and just await the right one to come on to you. If you should date someone older than you let it be four years ahead.
2007-02-28 14:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do wat you feel is right and wat you are comfortable with. i cant see any guy having a problem that you're a virgin, just be sure not to let someone take advantage of this. you say you are considered mature for your age so im guessing your a very intelligent woman too, so follow your heart and im positive you will find the happiness that you deserve.
2007-02-28 14:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should find an older man. if he likes you and you can actually "relate" with each other, he wont care that your a virgin.
2007-02-28 14:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by Just call me Mo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋