Is that weird? How can I help her break out of her shell? I mean she's really pretty now. , but in junior high, she wasn't. She didn't get pretty until high school, and in junior high, she was talked about a lot and boys pretended to like her just to be mean. But I think that's made her really shy. But she doesn't really know how to talk to guys and make eye contact and smile and all that stuff. I try and tell her how, but it's the actual doing part that's hard for her. And yesterday, she was crying saying how she was all lonely and all that stuff and I didn't know what to say. How can I help her meet a man, and help her to break out of her shell. Was anybody else that way?
2007-02-28 13:54:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aw, that's really sad! First off she needs a guy FRIEND, not to go charging into a full blown relationship and suffer almighty consequences. Find some guys who you know and trust and go out in the day. After a while, start going out together at night. Listen to her and make her feel valued. The shell breaks from the inside, not the other
2007-02-28 14:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Got your message, Micky. Hah!
I'm 26 and I can tell you I've been there before. Really bad. There's a lot of realy nice guys that are suffering from the same thing. Get the two of them together and its nuclear fusion. Happiness. There's nothing wrong with hooking up a friend with a friend. Just don't hover and tease too much.
There's a lot of love in this world, but its a poker game I know. Be the best friend that you can, and include her when you go out and do fun, geeky things away from the bars and stuff. Socializing is a skill that you're not born with, just like playing the piano it takes practice. She'll learn by informally watching how it is done.
2007-02-28 22:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ellis26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My old best friend and I were both really shy and not the best looking in junior high. Then in high school, she lost a ton of weight, broke out of her shell and was really outgoing. She had lots of boyfriends and dates and everything. I was still shy and still felt ugly...I think I may have eventually gotten a little better looking. But I ended up feeling desperate and tried online dating. It never really worked out. It wasn't until I stopped looking for guys when I met my husband. I've been trying to be less and less shy since then. I hate to say it but it may just be finding the right guy to have everything work out. Try setting her up and making the automosphere as comfortable as possible. Maybe get a lot of sugar in her so she'll be hyper? I don't know?
2007-02-28 22:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by mommyem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is suffering from ugly duckling syndrome she didn't get pretty until high school thus the personality had to develop out of necessity. So i would help her get some guy friends so she can get used to talking and hanging out with them. And its not weird i know lots of people in their twenties that have never dated just give her some help and she'll be dating in know time.
I know how she feels i didn't get hot until high school and that's the same reason i didn't date.
2007-02-28 22:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Soul Survivor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remind her that she is only 19. A whole life ahead of her. I know girls that were not the best looking in highschool then 5 years later its like WOW, who's that... I was never shy in highschool or jrhigh and had the worst case of pizza face in JrHigh. It was horrible, I was made fun of, but I am now married with the 2 most beautful daughters and a georgous wife... Life can turn around... GOOD THINGS DO COME TO THOES WHO TRULY WAIT!!!
2007-02-28 22:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's sad. I wish I could say more, but I've never been in that type of situation before. Of course I don't think its weird. Do what the first guy said. he seems like he knows what he's talking about.
2007-02-28 22:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she wants a boyfriend, she has to work on her confidence, maybe you could take her out to places like clubs or just hang out and have fun
2007-02-28 22:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by throw_away_your_television_2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before your friend finds a man, she needs to really work on her self-esteem. If you think your friend may be depressed because of this you should suggest to her that she seek counseling. It can only help her.
2007-02-28 22:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by NYGirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
take her clubbing so she can get #s
2007-02-28 22:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by gabsta 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋