My mom spyed on me?

Question

I'm a good teenager. I never get in trouble, I'm quiet in class, I don't drink, do drugs, or have a punk boyfriend. I thought I could be trusted. But no-ooo. My mom goes into my journal, my myspace, yahoo answers,... everything. I figure this out when she makes a comment on a situation I wrote about in my journal. It was just a. awkward conversation with a guy that I thought should be kept private. I am really ticked off right now, but she says she has every right to see what I do.. because she owns me. What do you think? Can I have a right to be angry? ( she will probably read this questions too ) >:-(

Answer 1

i SO know what your talking about.
my mother read my diary once in grade 7, one in grade 10 and once when i was 23.
The first time ( gr 7) she threw all the information back in my face and said "no wonder everyone thinks your a slut". I had been writing about kissing my first boyfriend. it was only kissing.
Gr 10. I wanted to move out of my house and away from her bc of it.
The third time when i was 23!!!!! i was living with her. i found out she had read it, and I wrote a message in my diary back to her-- something like i hope you enjoyed what you read. it is because of acts like this that I trust no one.
She also tried to ground me, get the neighbor to spy/babysit me, because of what i wrote in the diary at 23. I was an adult!!
I guess i just wanted to say to you, i know how you feel. it is shitty. it makes you feel dirty, little, unimportant, betrayed, hurt, disapointed. etc.
If you have to, keep your diary at school, or in a safe box- you can buy them pretty cheap at wal-mart. i uit writing in my diary from gr 10- til age 23 bc of it. I feel like i wish i would have wrote because there was so much i went through .. but.. we do what we have to do. we protect ourselves. i know this is horrible to say but do all you can to not let people get your stuff. its sad we have to hide, even things that should be hidden, but we do. its called private thoughts for a reason.
ps- you can contact me if you ever want to talk more.
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Answer 2

I'm sure she trusts you....but she's still your mom!! She loves you so much I'm sure and she wants to make sure that you are always out of harms way. I know you want your privacy and all that good stuff but with all the horrible people in the would today us mommies just can't be to careful. You hear everyday about someone getting abducted and something horrible happening to them. That is my worst nightmare something happening to one of my kids. Just remember this one day you will have kids of your own and TRUST me you will DO the samething.....I did!!! I know it sounds lame to say that but is soooo true. I am 30 and had my first son when I was 17 and now my son is 13 I know what I did when I was that age and I sure don't want him to do the same things. It will get better just try having a open relationship with her...can you tell her the things that go on in your life. I know she wants that more than anything. Good luck.

Answer 3

She may not have expressed herself very well, but she does care about you, and she is interested in your life. Not to ruin it, but to make it better.

All adults have things in our pasts that we wish we had done differently, and we try to pass on the lessons that we have learned the hard way to our kids...it's called experience. We (adults) are not, into micro-managing your life, we have our own...but the adults that do that care enough are looking out for you, and we will point out the pot-holes in life's road for you.

Those that don't care will watch you mess up...it can be entertaining, and can make for amusing stories when we all get together.
PS...did you really think that anything you put on myspace is private?
You seem to have a mother that is more interested in helping you, than laughing at your issues. That would be a good thing, so cut her a break on this one.

PS, did you really think that anything you put on myspace would be private?

Answer 4

Parents are obligated to monitor the internet activity of their children, and if you are a minor, you mom is just looking out for you, not spying on you. There are a lot of sick degenerates who stalk "good teenager" and your mother knows this and is only trying to protect you from such people. She would be negligent in her duty as a parent if she didn't monitor your activity.

You can be angry if you wish, but part of you should be grateful that you have a mother who cares enough about you to be interested in your on line activity.

Answer 5

Oh yes, you have every right to be angry. Even though I am a parent, I have always respected my daughters privacy. Even when they gave me some reasons not to, I would have never invaded the privacy of reading a personal journal that they kept. I was once a young girl to and I know the importance of having someplace to vent, write your secrets, make up anything and just have it for you. I hope your mom does read this answer because she needs to apologize to you for invading your privacy and be mature about just what the hell her reasoning is for her actions. She might be surprised if she would just tell you what she is concerned about.

Answer 6

Omg!! Yes u absolutely have a right to be angry!! I know i would be. It may be true that she gave birth to you and all but there is such a thing as a limit or a boundary, which your mom has clearly crossed. It's only right you that you should be able to keep somethings private.

Anyways, I wish you the best in solving this issue with your mom!

Good luck!

Answer 7

she has no right to look through ur private things

P.s. 4 future reference put a lock on journals diarys and things

For the internet
make sure ur mspace is private to every one but ur friends
put a password she'll never find out
and if it saves to the computer click no when it asks to save
and write every thing down

and ur mom does not own u u are a human being before a child
anyways people have not owned people since Abraham Lincoln made a law saying people dont own people

Answer 8

Dear Shelly
I think you are right your parents shouldn't care what you are doing. You should be able to do what you want when you want to Eat what you want to stay out all night get in to drugs and drink. How dare them show you they care about you. How dare they show you they love you by checking up on you. Why would you want parents that cared what you do. Do you get what I'm saying. I think you are OK to blow off steam now go and give your parents a hug and tell them thank you for caring. Do you know how many Teens would love to have your parents. There is parents that leave there teens to do what ever they want. They leave them at home alone and go to vacation with out them Which would you want to have?

Answer 9

Nobody OWNS you, you are your own person. She might be doing this because she cares about you. Maybe she just has nothing better to do with her life. Tell your mom if she wants to know something, she should always come to you first. And if you haven't done anything wrong, you can always tell her the truth. Plus, with all of this bad rap on teens, she might just be checking. Let me know how everything goes.

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Answer 10

tell your college counselor approximately it. the wonderful suggestion sometimes comes from somebody not on the subject of the undertaking. do not make your individual judgements for entertainment consistent with what your mom enjoys. interior the destiny do not secret agent on your mom whilst she's unique. It would not sound like your mom is a stripper, yet she is unquestionably a lesbian, who has a girl buddy, or specific buddy. appreciate your mom, yet ask her to maintain her own existence seperate out of your existence.