I'm in my 30s. On friday night, I'm going to a singles dance. In an odd sort of way, its like a grade school dance - lots of people sitting on the sidelines. I could use some tips on - how to approach a guy in a friendly (but not threatening manner) - how to hang around and catch someone's eye - what to talk about - Help! Anything will be appreciated.
2007-02-28 13:48:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think things become much easier as you grow older. You could just go up to a guy stick your hand out, smile and say hi! after all he's there to meet people too
A good opener for conversation could be a simple comment about the gathering and the venue.
Eye contact always helps. to get him next t you and keep him there. Even a slow blink after you know he's looking at you would be most fun.
As for flirting well a slow smile after eye contact is established will get him there next to you like a shot.
2007-02-28 13:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by anuradhasarup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm only 18 but my mom is 38 and her sister (my aunt) is 42. They both seem to have good flirting skills.
Well, what my aunt does, is wear clothes that flatter her body. She is a size 13, but she still looks very good, so she wears jeans that are tight fitting *but not painted on, of course*, and maybe even a low cut top and a nice jacket.
Her flirting skills consist of smiling big and brightly and eyeing men from across the room. Once she meets one or begins a conversation, she lightens him up by cracking a joke or saying something a little silly. When she doesn't feel its the time for a joke, she will introduce herself with a warm smile, and shake his hand. As she shakes his hand (with a firm grip), she will slightly "hold" his other arm with her other hand. This seems to draw men into her for some reason.
My mom wears similar clothes, but she likes to cover herself up a little more. She's a size 7 but she still wears flattering jeans, but shirts that don't show too much cleavage. To flirt with a guy, she will eye him from across the room with a little smirk and wait for him to approach her. If he doesn't, she will go up to a group of people she knows holding a conversation and join in. Most likely, someone will be there who she doesn't know and she will introduce herself.
I'm not sure if I helped, but I thought that since I sometimes use some of these tips (and I'm only 18) and they work, and they're still working for 30 + women, they must be good. :)
2007-02-28 13:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by sec0nd.2none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the other people there are going to be around the same age, then you might want to try wearing a sign on your shirt/dress that says "I dance with anyone"
I think the key here is going to be to make yourself seem available more than to work on flirting.
do you plan on approaching guys or waiting for them to come to you?
if you plan on going up to guys, then you have already overcome the hardest part about it. ask them questions about themselves, but make sure they are questions that can be answered with one word answers if you want. the thing guys hate most about a girl that they just met is when the girls makes them talk. you want to encourage conversation, but not force it.
2007-02-28 13:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by bassdog65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're able to be specializing in different issues in college then flirting?... and besides your in 9 grade! what might your mothers and dads say. have fun with being a baby and stop transforming into up so speedy. besides flirting purely hurts human beings thoughts.
2016-10-16 23:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by schwalm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just grab a guy by the arm and say lets dance, he can either say yes or no and move on to the next if he says no.
Just relax and look around in eyes of whomever may attract ya.
u may even meet your future hubby...who knows
relax , be yourself, go with the flow
2007-02-28 13:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me know if you find out,I would like to know as well!!!LOL!!!
I am in the same boat,but I have figured out one thing....at this point you have to be looking out for YOU!!! Don't have expectations,just enjoy life!! It is true,when you aren't looking,things happen.Just go & have fun being you......in the end,guys aren't so fun to have around All the time(you know what I mean).What I'm saying is "Have fun with your life",don't have such a desire to meet men,life isn't all bad.
2007-02-28 13:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by spicy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off just be urself would u want anyone u had to put on a front for if u see someone u'd like to talk to just do it take a chance and go for it
2007-02-28 13:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eye contact is number one. I got a hot guy in a club to come up and talk with me after just looking at him a lot. And smiling. Don't just stare! It'll work trust me!
2007-02-28 13:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can approach by saying, "wow this party is real nice"
"u look familiar"... "have i seen you before"
u can say something like that. and then you can continue talking, and introduce yourself.
it wont be rude, i dont think it will.
its a tip. try it, take my advice
2007-02-28 13:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting comes first with eye contact or sexy ventures of what makes one feel sexy and if your looks and looking at them are enticing enough here comes Johnny.
2007-02-28 13:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋