How can I stop being shy around my crush?

Question

I just want to be myself! And comfortable around him without feeling like I'm boring or am going to embarrass myself if I say anything!

Also, if you catch a guy looking at you and he turns away real quick and pretends he wasn't staring at you, could he be interested?

Answer 1

It's not as hard as it seems to be yourself in front of your crush. Cling to a close friend for a while, one who you're comfortable around, and then act like he's not there. After a while, it'll get easier to be outgoing in front of him without help. Work your way towards a friendship, and once you have, you can make strings in your relationship.

If this happens, then it's quite possible that he's interested, but don't get your hopes up too high before you've got your facts. He could be just playing with your feelings. For some reason, it seems like that's a common hobby for guys.

Answer 2

I get that feeling all the time! Ask the guy hey did u see the game last night or wow that math test was hard! That ushually gets a conversation going. Or u can text mesge him if he has a phone. That way u can think rly hard about wat ur going to say to him and u wont sound stupid.
Oh and if you catch a guy looking at you and he turns away real quick and pretends he wasn't staring at you he may have some feelings for u. Hes just shy around girls like u may b shy around boys.
PS or u can just drop ur pencil lol

Answer 3

i have this same problem, and there really isn't an easy way out.
young age has alot to do with this shyness. if you are shy around guys, you probably shouldn't be dating.
what could help is being interested in a guy who will make all the moves.
if you act shy, someone asks you out, yhou know that he's outgoing since he was interested in you even though you acted shy. well once you get that point, tell him that you'll get choked up. then, become comfortable. communication is everything.
so i'm kind of getting too far.haha. okay well, for now since you aren't dating, the best way of getting over nerousness is becoming friends with him. act like you're just getting to know him, and make HIM guess.
as for his staring, you never know 100%. but the whole "i'm looking and now im not what are you looking at la la la look at the cieling" sounds like hes interested. start talking to him! once he responds back, you'll know for sure.
good luck!

Answer 4

If it were me, I would be brutally honest about everything. Start a conversation with something small, or jump into it. Use what you already know about him to start a conversation and ask questions to get him involved in it.
I'm shy too, and the best advice i've ever gotten about this sort of thing is that it's 90% attitude and 10% phisical attraction.


Secondly, if you catch a guy looking at you and he turns away, it could mean a number of things, and yes, one of them is that he may be interested.

What are you afraid of? Rejection?

Answer 5

Just realize that if you ever potentially want *anything* beyond friendship with this guy YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO BE COMFORTABLE TALKING TO HIM :D
I'm shy too so that's easier said than done but I've found that the guys that make the best bf's are the ones that you like but are simultaneously amazed at the fact that you're not shy around them and can talk to them about anything.
I've also found that once you get the conversation rolling, the fear gradually dissipates with familiarity. Good luck!

Answer 6

first of all all you need to do is start by saying hello when you see him in the hallways or by asking him "whats up" when you see him in class, after you get past this step start talking to him and just pretend he's your BFF. Secondly a guy could be very interested in you if he pretends he wasn't looking at you. Good Luck with you crush!

Answer 7

I think its easy for some to forget how hard it was when they were new to the dating scene. "Don't be shy" Isn't the answer I'll give, but I will say this: Socialization is a skill that you learn only with practice, just like learning the piano or anything else. Keep working at it. Humor is a great tool, and if you find yourself looking geeky, laugh at yourself.

Answer 8

just start out with small talk with your crush. i had to help my friend with her crush. i stood there to help her feel comfortable while she talked to him. then i slowly left when they got into a conversation. take a friend with you and have her at a safe distance for you. it is possible that the guy who looks away quick is interested. keep the small talk short at first with your crush that way you don't think you are boring and won't embarass your self. you can say more later.

Answer 9

The first part: there is no way to force yourself to do it without just finding a comfortable situation between you two and just talking... groups of friends can sometimes be good for this. Otherwise just suck it up and do the best you can.

Second part: Possibly.

Answer 10

IF YOU CANT BE YOURSELF SWEETCHEEKS AROUND THIS GUY THEN YOU NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACK AND THINK WHY YOUR NOT BEING YOURSELF......MEN THAT I KNOW WANT A WOMAN TO BE HERSELF.....AS FAR AS HOW TO STOP BEING SHY UUUUMMMMM ASK HIM WHAT HIS INTERESTS ARE DOES HE LIKE SPORTS? WHAT TEAMS? IF YOU DONT ANYTHING ABOUT THE SPORT ASK HIM TO TEACH YOU ABOUT IT---MOST MEN DIG THAT.... ASK HIM WHAT MUSIC HE LIKES??? WHAT GOALS DOES HE HAVE IN LIFE???? THEN YOU CAN GO FROM THERE ...GOOD LUCK