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Ladies we live in an industrialized society. It is not like the guys have to go out and hunt for food anymore. Women are now working to bring in money so what is the problem with us blokes helping around the house? Personally I am tired of hearing women complain about this yet the fix is simple. If a strong personality like me could change why can't the rest of the men? What is fair is fair. Women get a backbone and stand up for your rights and take the time to teach your man how to change. I for one am tired of hearing women complaining about it yet won't fight for change. Do something about it or be quite and accept your fate.

2007-02-28 13:40:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

To the guys that think a man with a consideration for his mate is gay or pussyfied: a real man can admit his mistakes. I wear the pants in the family and no woman I have ever been with could stand up to me in the end. As the leader of the house hold it is my intention to lead with responsiblity. It is not a weakness to help a woman who is working just as hard as you in her career when you can. What you fools don't understand if your lady is not so tired you just might get more BJ for being considerate.

2007-02-28 14:08:10 · update #1

15 answers

well i think the answer is simple,
lets say a guy pushed a girl around and she got some backbone and stood up to him
would you think that guy spend time to work on his problems and change, or get some girl who would say "yes master"?
think about it.
that's the way all of us are. always looking for an easy way out.
you, however, probably realized that a girl who you can push around gets boring, and eventually you would actually want something out of your relation ship.
honestly even if the relation ship doesn't work out, it's better to walk away with something like more respect for the opposite sex.

2007-02-28 13:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

That is probably one of the stupidest questions I have ever heard in my life. So what you are saying is that women should have the right to CHANGE her man? Who needs the backbone here? Let me tell you, as a woman I too am tired of hearing women complain about men helping out. But there is only one problem - the woman should NOT be changing anyone but herself. If she is complaining, then she is with the wrong man. Period. It's people that think like you that keep the huge rift between men and women. No one should be forced to change - what is it with people getting into relationships and acting like that that's the last person they're ever going to get? Wake up - take time to find the RIGHT person, not to make someone who is with you into what you want them to be.

2007-02-28 21:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 1 0

If a woman wants a man who's going to do dishes and sweep the floor, then that's who she should date/marry. But women who choose more traditional men that don't do these things, really should NOT be complaining. My husband doesn't cook or clean - but I knew that when I married him. He also brings home at least 3x the amount that I do and works 2-3 times the amount of hours, so I feel it's more than balanced. Every marriage or relationship is different. In our house, the traditional approach works. I take care of the house, bills, and kids while working part time, he takes care of the car, repairs, and outside while working full time.
I think gender roles have gotten quite blurred - most men have no idea what a woman REALLY wants - sensitive or protective, loving or macho, 'new' man or traditional? So they do what they've always done, since most women don't outright TELL them what they need or want.
Personally, I find it easier to have defined lines as to who does what, rather than a blur of trying to figure out the last 0.02% of that 50/50 split. Tried that, didn't work for us. I like being a housewife, he likes being a traditional husband. And besides, it makes his friends jealous. :-)

2007-02-28 21:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 2 0

Why are men still able to divorce their wives which would mean she would loose everything including the clothes she was wearing?

Are women still unable to join the workplace in CEO roles and have voting privileges to elect other women to power roles?

Sounds like women have come a long way in 100 years. Also you're assuming that men and women are the same personality wise. We are not. Women have different personalities and things they hold as important than men.

Also if you want to fight for the whatever right you are fight for women why should you propose to a woman you want to marry? Why won't you stay home with the children and let your wife be the bread winner? Why not try and have sex with women and instead just cuddle forever. Men and women are different. Fight for equality but please don't try and pretend you're some male feminist. The greatest of all oxymorons.

2007-02-28 22:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by X M 3 · 1 0

Actually, the change should begin when a woman gives birth to a boy child--right from the get go she ought to be teaching him how to share and how to contribute to the upkeep of the household. Many boys are raised to be little princes, never doing any housework (because it's "women's work"). So by the time they are old enough to be in their own adult relationship, they are totally brainwashed and useless. Plus, there are a lot of men who get abusive when asked to help out at home. Or just become lumps on the sofa, immovable (and still useless). My mother for most of her married life has been trying to get my dad to help out but he never would, he'd always telll her that he goes out to work every day and brings home the money so it was her job to tend to the home front. And I'm pretty sure that even if mom had gotten a job (it would not have paid very well), he'd still expect her to do the house work. But in turn, if a faucet began to drip, mom would never try to fix it herself or even call the plumber because that was "men's work" so that faucet would drip and drip and drip because dad didn't care, he wasn't home to have to deal with it (and if I was around, I'd fix the darn thing--doesn't take a rocket scientist). Oddly, my sisters both found husbands who have always helped around the house as much as possible while both my brothers found wives who won't go get jobs. And one brother's wife won't get a job nor will she do housework! Not sure what's going on there but she was raised in a boarding school so never learned how to be a family member. There's a lot going on with relationship dynamics. Only part of the problem is that women so many women allow men to not carry their share of the domestic front (and many marriages break up because of it too). Most women are raised with a very subtle, maybe subliminal idea that women NEED men to validate them and they will do whatever it takes, including working full time and then coming home to do all the housework, just to keep a man. A lot more and deeper has to be changed, not just getting a backbone.

2007-02-28 21:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0 1

You, sir, have been pussified.

No matter how comfortable you get in your Mr. Housewife role, it is an indisputable and biological certainty that women are drawn to men who are aggressive, competent, successful, and strong. These attributes may be expressed in different ways, and to different degrees, by different men. But it's hard to see them in a man who wears an apron and holds a feather duster.

EDIT:

If anyone is talking about being inconsiderate to one's mate, it's you.

You buy into the feminist mindset that men can be bullied and browbeaten into obedience. THAT is inconsiderate behavior. Any woman who goes that route is going to be perpetually disappointed, frustrated, and angry.

You got one thing right, though.

"...the fix is simple."

You ever see that picture, illustrating the differences between the sexes? There are two boxes. The first has a single switch, labelled "On" and "Off." The second box has a myriad of switches, dials, readouts, gauges, indicator lights, rheostats and is utterly incomprehensible. Naturally, the first box is labelled "Men", and the second, "Women."

Men are incredibly simple. They are easy to understand.
Women are incredibly complex. They are meant to be loved, not understood.

Women know exactly what men want. Good sex. Good food. An orderly life. Respect and admiration.

Men do NOT know what women want. Hell, WOMEN do not know what women want. What women want has a tendency to change from one moment to the next.

Knowledge is power. Women have the goods on men, and therefore, have the advantage. Any woman who uses her power wisely--uses her femininity--on a GOOD man will have him eating out of the palm of her hand.

And men? Good men don't give a damn what a good woman wants. HE'LL GET IT FOR HER. Doesn't matter if it's an empty sink, folded laundry, or a new car. You make him happy and proud to be a man, and he'll do everything in his power to make your every wish a reality.

2007-02-28 21:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Guncrazy 4 · 3 2

I like the way you think. Being human we are all equal and no one is better then someone else. I think girls should stand up for themselves but I also think guys should try to help and listen to what the woman has to say. You aren't gay or anything you are a good person who has good ideas.

2007-03-01 21:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sorry, but it's the men who can provide and protect who attract women. And I mean REAL women, who understand the power and allure of femininity, rather than the abrasiveness and hostility of feminism.

Feminists might go for the meek househusband at first, because it feels "empowering" to be able to dominate a man. But they eventually grow bored and outgrow them, and it's usually an arrogant prick of an alpha male who leads to wimpy men being cuckolded.

2007-02-28 21:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Bradley 3 · 2 0

unfortunatley many men arent as enlightened as you are! woman complain because despite repeated requests for help around the house or sharing of the workload their partner wont come to the party, no amount of strength in your personality is going to change a neanderthal thinking man

2007-02-28 21:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0 1

No complaints from me, if I don't feel like doing the laundry or the dishes, I don't! He usually does them before I do, if they start bothering him by looking at them.
No gripping from me...... All's well in my world in that department!

2007-02-28 21:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0 0

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