OKAY BEEN WITH MY FIANCE FOR 9 YEARS,HAVE 2 CHILDREN TOGETHER.I AM STARTING TO FEEL AS IF HE IS "COMFORTABLE "WITH OUR SITUTION.I WOULD LIKE TO FINNALY BE MARRIED AND STOP HEAR PEOPLE SAY "YOUR NOT MARRIED YET?'WE DON'T HAVE ALOT TO SPEND,WHAT ARE SOME GOOD IDEAS.HAS ANYONE EVER GOT MARRIED AT THE MALL OF AMERICA?I LIVE IN WISCONSIN SO ANY IDEAS WOULD BE GREAT.
2007-02-28 13:38:59 · 4 answers · asked by Nicky B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First, have a heart-to-heart with your fiance about his view of the relationship. He may not be aware of how deep your feelings about wanting to finally get married are, and he may have some worries or thoughts that he hasn't yet told you about, too. Getting engaged is good, but most people follow it up with actually tying the knot! You may need to work out a timetable for when you'll get married if he's a fly-by-the-seat-of-his-pants type. Sometimes a big event can be scary to approach.
Once you've worked out this situation, think of places around you that are beautiful but cheap (or free!) to rent. The Mall of America is an awesome destination, but since I'm from Arkansas, I don't know what its atmosphere is like. If there is a part of the Mall that's special to you, go for it! Parks, public gardens, and even gorgeous back yards of friends or family are also great places to start! If you have a friend with a camera that can record the day, even better.
Because you do have two kids, it would be meaningful and special to them if they could be involved in some way. Whether you all choose to dress up or just wear outfits that are the same color, they'll be sure to remember when Mom and Dad made it official :-)
2007-02-28 14:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by dandy_lion26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together all this time by technical terms you're considered married since states that recognize common law consider it married after 5-7 years. If you decide to have a wedding I would not purchase a white dress because that signifies purity to the marriage meaning the woman's a virgin an off-white or cream colored dress is an appropriate color. If you're on a limited budget just get a hall, DJ, and figure out a budget to cater the event. The average small wedding is around $5-7,000 so if that's not feasable then you might as well just go to city hall and get married and just have a dinner with close family and friends.
Your partner seems 'comfortable' at this point because he doesnt see the point of getting married. This is why women need to stop shacking up with guys and bearing kids for them. Men are likely to get married when you're not living together and making babies out of wedlock. Most men like your boyfriend are ok with the fact that they get everything that a wife does just without the ring and the piece of paper. Also most kids should grow up seeing adults married instead of living together.
2007-02-28 15:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i would say have a heart to heart with him and get a justice of the peace and have a few friends and family over for whatever after. he needs to know that you aren't "comfortable" and want to be married to him and be a family (not that you aren't already).
2007-02-28 13:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by cowgirlclub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to tell him you want to get married. Most men don't really think about this stuff unless you bring it up. Ask for what you want.
2007-02-28 16:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋