..i am 17 and in my first serious relationship with an older guy (well not that old he's 22) anyways, we've been together for 3 weeks now and they still dont know because im scared to tell them. they'll probably say i cant see him for whatever reason. should i keep it a secret or tell them and if so how?
2007-02-28 13:27:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't like the idea of a minor dating an adult in his 20s. To me, that is a sign that he cannot handle a more mature woman and is out to find some young girl he can control. Not to mention the statutory rape issue... If you tell your parents you are just putting him in danger of becoming a convicted child molester or worse. Please put yourself out of harms way by dropping this relationship now. When you are older, the age difference won't be such a big deal, but right now you still have a lot of growing and maturing to do. :)
2007-02-28 13:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by dottidal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just made 18 2 weeks ago and my ex boyfriend was 26. I kept it a secret from my mom we was 2gether 2 months and my mom found out. I think you should tell her becuz its gonna hurt her when she does find out and she will find out cuz what u do in the dark will come 2 the light so your mom will fid out. my mom told me that i had 2 break up with him becuz older men are way 2 experienced so be careful girl you dont wanna get caught so either you tell your mom or break up with him dont keep it a secret trust me and u really need 2 find a boy your age or a year older becuz its your first real relationship and you dont wanna start off and get hurt
2007-02-28 21:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by `Beautiful inside and out~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should probably tell them, because they know what's best for you (even though ur 17) they still should know. plus sometimes wen u get cauttup in a relationship with an older man, it can get really stressfull if ur keeping it a secret. hope i helped! and i can TOTALY understand why u wanna keep it a secret - i guses u could wait a while and talk it over with ur new boyfriend. have ur parents met him before? if so, then you could build their relationship and then drop the bomb, or if they don't know him, let them meet him. HOPE I HELPED!!! ok NOW i'm done. xD
2007-02-28 21:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by tomboychick735 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 weeks....it's still too early, cos you'll never know what'll happen in the near future, i suggest waiting longer till both of you know that the both of you can last forever, cos it's not good telling now and who knows 2 months later you people break up, it'll leave a bad impression on your parents
let your parents know your boyfriend as your normal friend first and let them see that he's someone trustable and someone who can cared for you, as in each time you're going out just tell your parents that you're going out with your friend, if he's fetching you just bring him in the house and treat him as your friend, although him being 22 might be a bit suspicious...but this is what i think.
2007-02-28 22:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by wai2kit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he's a nice, responsible guy than you shouldnt be afraid to tell them. I do think its kinda weird that a 22 years old is interested in a 17 years old though, are you sure hes really into ypou and not after only one thing?
2007-02-28 21:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to tell them than if they found out on their own...Five years is a big jump when that's only a little more than a third of your life! I know my parents were really glad when I told them I was dating an older guy (rather than them finding out on their own). Never sneak around regardless.
2007-02-28 21:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by Julia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them. If you make it an issue they might also make it an issue. All parents want to have responsible level headed kids. I think they'd be less apprehensive of an older guy if you were up front and honest about it. Besides...you don't want to have to hide this great guy you are dating right!?
2007-02-28 21:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by Magicflower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm I think that's kinda weird. I thought my friend was weird because he's 19 and his gf is in her junior year of high school, 16. But 5 years... that's kinda creepy. I think you should wait to see if the relationship is really something serious (is it even legal?) and then tell your parents that you met someone u like and if they trust him with you, then it's all good. if not, then find someone a little younger..
2007-02-28 21:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by F1reflyfan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be like oh yea im going out with so and so tonight....and they will ask questions and that will start the convo....secret relationships really suck and are stressful......my folks didnt want me dating older guys so i just lied about the age
2007-02-28 21:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them a note. But it's a bad idea to keep it a secret.
2007-02-28 21:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by Gina Chess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋