What is the best way to end all possible contact with a guy?

Question

i love him. But i don't want him to think he can just use me. So.. i don't wanna be around him anymore. Can you help me? (if you want more details about this guy, justin then plz read the other questions i have posted. They are all about him. Even the bad ones) Should i stop talking to him and liking him? why?

Answer 1

Obviously you have allowed this "Justin" to use you repeatedly, right? Yet now you say you "dont wanna be around him". If I may be so bold w/o offending you, it's YOU that needs help, it's not his fault for using you if you allowed that behavior before & yet open yourself up to it again & again. Why should HE change? Why don't you try finding out what it is that attracts you to these kind of guys, maybe go to close friends, or a counselor, and LEARN from your mistakes. Sometimes we act in a way that even WE can't tolerate about ourselves! but what do we do? We go right back to the bomb to see if it'll go off again! Right? That's NUTS!! But honey, it don't mean YOU are, we just have something that causes us to lack self esteem or good judgement. Think about YOURSELF first, defend yourself, and don't take no **** off of ANY man,ok?. You can do it! And I guarantee you, you'll end up a winner with a winner.@ your side.Good luck ;-)

Answer 2

I've met too many girls in your situtation.

Ok, I'll lay it to you straight. You want to end it and are willing to do so, just do it. You have to do it cold turkey. You have to get busy and stop using him as a drug. You have to avoid going into another relationship right away. Work on your self respect and your independence. (Don't reject perfectly good guys now while you have this subcontious idea he is the one you want. Don't get caught with guys you'd never associate with otherwise either.)


Questions to ask:
1) How many chances have you given the guy?
2) How did you treat him? Sit down and think about the relationship. Look at the good and bad

Questions:
1) What have you done for him? List. Did you build him up? What are his needs?
2) What has he done for you? List. Did he build you up? Did he have any understanding about your needs?
3) How serious is he now? How serious was he the last time?
4) Any mental or physical abuse?
5) Signs of love/concern that did not involve "getting" something out of him and vice versa?
6) What to you mean by you love him? Obviously you've invested alot of emotion and affection into the guy and mabye he's your first or longest lasting one? But do you love him for who is IS or who you WISH he would be? Obviously your attracted to him but ask yourself why. Give yourself time.

Based on your description tho, my assumption is yours is one of those long winded tired one way relationships. I could be wrong tho. That's why I say, sit down by yourself and write down everything you know!!! Be honest. They destroy the notes once you make your descison

Answer 3

okay, you say that you love him, but you don't want to have any contact with him anymore. then you ask if you should stop talking to him and liking him, and then you ask why! sweetie, I haven't read the other questions you've posted about him, but if he's making you this confused, and he's using you, then you just need to tell him that you don't want to have any further contact with him because you're going to do what's best for you, you're starting over, and that there's no place in your life for him anymore. and if he still calls you, don't answer. he will eventually get the idea that you're serious and he'll quit.
you have to be good to yourself and do what's best for you. you deserve better!
if I can find the other questions you've posted I'll certainly read them. but I still think my answer will be the same as now, and that's you're better off without him.
Best Wishes and Stay Strong

Answer 4

if u want to stop all contact then that means no phone calls no talking in person or letter make ur mind up and just do it that's the only way its going to work if u dont and u give him the idea he can use u he probally will for as long as u let him

Answer 5

Tell him once that you don't want to see him again. Then ignore him after that. If you go back on your own word and do talk to him then it's your own fault what happens. If he calls just hang up. However if he persists and it becomes bothersome go to the cops and then when he bothers you again the only phone calls he can make are to his lawyer from the slammer.

That or I hear NASA's looking for people to go to Mars :-D

Answer 6

I have not read your other questions but if you want to end all contact you will have to do just that. Stop calling or talking to him period, even when he calls or talks to you. Act as if he has died and forget he even exists. If he walks in front of you don't even acknowledge his existance period.

Answer 7

well if he is using you then the best way to end all possible contact with the guy is not picking up his phone calls if he calls you, not hanging out around him ect ect, If he is using you stop liking him

Answer 8

If you keep acting weird about it, he'll not want anything to do with you after awhile. Just move on with your life and find something else to take up your time, like school and stuff.

Answer 9

3 words tempory restraing order

Answer 10

dont talk to him, if he calls say "sorry i dont want to talk to you" if he goes to your house say "sorry can you please leave?" if he dosnt take it to the authoritys