Well me and my gf have been dating for 4 years now and she has broken up with me twic in the last 2 months everything was fine until about 6 months ago (when she started working i dont know if this has anything to do with how she is acting) SHe says shes mad because how i used to treat her and that she cant forgive she says thats why she cant be with me right now but she still says she loves me and stuff like that and she says that she will get back with me but she needs time so what should i do i am so confued right now?!?!?!?!
2007-02-28 13:10:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"SHe says shes mad because how i used to treat her and that she cant forgive she says thats why she cant be with me right now"
I may be off, but this quote says to me, that some other dude is treating her in a way that is making her think you short changed her. I am not saying she's hooking up with him, cause she says she still loves you and most women are very loyal, but dude you better start making up for lost time and treating her right or some other dude is gonna move in on your girl.
The most important thing though, is that you treat her right because you want her, not because you are afraid someone else is going to get her.
2007-02-28 13:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by John P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your girlfriend is suffering from the 'I got my own money and can make it on my own blues.' If she hasn't worked in four years she probably is just a little bit big headed about her new found independence. You should encourage her, but at the same time ask her why she feels she has to leave your home, the one you've made together to do this. Has she decided to test the waters for something else? It could be. Leaving the home you have built with someone you supposedly love is more of a running situation. If you haven't given her a reason to run, then she is running from herself. Talk to her. For your good as well as hers. Before its too late, if it isn't already. Good luck.
2007-02-28 13:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That terrible high one gets when the first fall in love is caused by the endorphins your body kicks out--I think you could justifiably call it lust. Real love is based on character, commitment and respect and will have its ups and down. If you think the love is gone try breaking up because the endorphins plunge and the fight or flight hormone cortisol kicks in and you will really know what misery is. People unfortunately rush into a relationship because of this HIGH which they think is love, when in reality they don't even like the person or know them for that matter. It is nature's was of perpetuating the species. You are probably to young for commitment. Get to know other girls.
2007-02-28 13:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs space. Stop analyzing it. You both need it. I am not sure what you did to her, but if it involves abuse or cheating- I would be irritated too. How can you look at someone the same after that? Maybe she sees that there are other things in life besides you and your relationship. Give her time. On the otherhand, maybe she is too busy at work or there is someone else. Time will tell. back up off the bus though!
2007-02-28 13:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess be honest with yourself.
How did you treat her? How did she treat you?
Is your relationship an explosion or do you build each other up.
Anyway, I'd say, slow down. Give her some space but not too much.
Spend some time thinking what you want out of the relationship and what she wants. Are you stringing each other along?
Be honest to yourself.
Oh, and doing something she does not expect, (that's nice), does not hurt either, unless of course its just after you finished putting her down.
2007-02-28 13:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should talk about your problems with her and try your best to come to an agreement. Sometimes a date night during a busy schedule will spark up romance in a dull relationship! Just suprise her!
2007-02-28 13:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by Vesdog! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, but anyone who needs time 3 times.... its just no use... besides, 4 years? id think someone would have proposed
if *I* were you, but im not, id just end the relationship
2007-02-28 13:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt like you.
2007-02-28 13:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by joethemetaldude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋