As in, have u got a closer bond with that someone after an arguement/fight? How did u reconcile?
2007-02-28 12:53:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, my boyfriend and I are the king and queen of "break up to make up". We get mad and argue then after a few days away from each other we talk and communicate how we felt and what we both want and we get closer every time because we realize we don't want to be without each other.
2007-02-28 12:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Nette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My own personal experience is that after a fight or an argument, sex is usually great! No kidding! I guess all that burning fire inside you just have to escape somehow. Makes a lot of sense, doesn't it?
I could understand how some relationship would get worse after a fight or argument....this is what happens when there's some nasty name-calling and heaven forbid, some "physicalities" (i.e., slapping, pushing, etc.)! When you de-base a person, the damage is usually irreparable. Hence, the relationship could no longer revert to its original glorious (or sorry) state.
The key really is knowing how to argue. Arguments serve a good purpose in relationship...it is meant to clear the air so that a happy compromise could be met. If you don't know how to argue well, just keep quiet. That's your best chance of saving a relationship.
And yes, even if it's not your fault, it's perfectly okay to apologize first....you're the better person for it. In any argument, it is always the "smarter" person who wins. It is because whether he/she is right or wrong, he/she knows when to quit or to let go.
2007-02-28 13:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually the first arguement is in trying to change something about each other. in doing so you learn that you are both comfortable with telling each other your thoughts and feelings. This opens the relationship up for trust, and caring on a deeper level, you listen and grow with them. Not always changing to meet the need, but you understand how they work and think better. When you can openly tell someone they are being a jerk about ...or over reacting to... you have a deeper connection and more willing to work on future issues. much like friends do.
2007-02-28 13:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by R. M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships grow stronger through conflict and resolution. If you are in a relationship where there is no conflict, then someone isn't speaking up when things bother them.
All of the fights with my current bf bring us together. We get to say what is bothering us, and both people can express themselves effectively.
2007-02-28 12:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by moderncutthroat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but only after a Loong hiatus! My ex-husband and I became close friends after 12 yrs. of being divorced.Turns out neither one of us took the time to TRY & understand the other, and allowed the influence of friends and their active imaginations & lies about the other spouse to put a wall between us that neither one was willing to tear down. Now, we are older, wiser, and refuse to allow others to interfere in our "current" relationships. We are both remarried & happy, it's too late to change the past, but not too late to LEARN from it.
2007-02-28 13:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well when me and my guy have an argument we can never stay mad at each other to long I think I have fallen in love with him at least 20 times in the 8 years we've been together. Alot of times we make love, make each other a nice meal or just do something nice for one another. It sucks to stay mad.
Later.
2007-02-28 12:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always. It's called make-up sex. Couples get in to arguments, and the loser makes up for it be doing something special for the winner. Be it just kissing him or her extra tinderly, or ravishing him or her in bed. Most arguments have peaks of enjoyment a few hours or the next day. The reconciliation just happens.
2007-02-28 12:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Twitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i've never been in a relationship but so i wouldnt know. Me and my sister usually fight but get closer after the fight, we talk and chill and play games.
2007-02-28 12:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by D21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you manage to survive after a fight, put the past behind, don't bring it up again.
I believe this is one of the key to a good bond.
2007-02-28 12:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by IIDX Chem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure. sometime a combat brings you closer, because of the fact the reality consistently finally ends up popping out once you argue. i'm unlikely into very final consequences because of the fact there are too many to speak approximately.
2016-10-16 23:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by fanelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋