My 4 year old son has just started preschool and has not made a friend yet. We live in a small town and there are only 3 boys in his class. He has known these boys for 2 years as they all attended play group together and one of the boys is our neighbour. The other 2 boys have made a strong friendship with each other and won't let my son in. They have started calling him names and saying that they hate him. The nieghbors son appears to be the instigator. My son has responded by pushing or hitting. On the rare occassions that they have let him in, which on one occassion was at playgroup where I witnessed my son copying the other boys by calling another little boy names. I want him to fit in as I'm worried about his self esteem, however I don't want him to end up as nasty as the other boys. He seems to like being on his own most of the time but my fear is if he doesn't make his friends now it will be harder for him later when he really does want the company of others. Advice needed.
2007-02-28 12:51:28 · 8 answers · asked by gillywobble 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
As a mom of two boys I would be very unhappy if they were playing like this you describe.
As a preschool teacher, I would want you to talk to me about this matter....
I want you to go to this teacher and ask what she can do to reassure you that you child will be safe and that all will be calm for
your child...This is not the case of boys being boys this is the case of power struggle and getting along..
Everyone must learn to get along. If you don't agree with what she says and I am all to familiar with small town problems but don't let that get in your way. Look for other options
Also school readiness and behavior is your goal stay focused with that and your child will be ready for the world..
2007-02-28 14:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by MissChatea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to watch, but it happens to a lot of kids. Maybe you could speak with the other boys parents about this. They may not know their kids are acting this way.
At 4 years old, your son could make friends with the girls too. I know he'd rather hang out with the 'guys' but...if he has fun with the girls, the other boys might even try being nice so THEY can join in.
Also, I'd speak to his preschool teacher about this. He/she should not be allowing this to go on in school. Good luck!
2007-02-28 12:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The teacher should be responding to the bad behavior, with all the talk of bullying in schools, why not nip it in preschool.
I was confused by the top, if your son was one of the total 3 boys in the class, or if there was another. If there is another Id encourage him to pair up with that one, its harder to pick on a pair.
2007-02-28 13:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss your concerns with the preschool teahcers/director. See if they can develop activities that encourages them all to play together and work together to accomplish a goal. Also, as others have suggested. Have your son spend time with these other boys indvidually outside of school.
2007-02-28 13:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 09:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that you are who you spend time with. If your little boy hangs out with these other boys, he will learn from them. Have him make friends with the little girls in his class. At this age he just needs someone to be friends with, it doesnt matter if they are girls or boys. Next year when he is in Kindergarden, he will meet new friends.
2007-02-28 12:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have to be friends with those boys, there's nothing wrong with him finding some nice girls to play with. At this age, there's no such thing as boy activities or girl activities and I suggest that you make friends with some of the moms of girls so that you can arrange a play date.
2007-02-28 12:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Schedule a playdate with these little boys and do something really fun!
2007-02-28 12:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by btinawill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋