I need help what should I do?

Question

Okay so I know this one person because we went to school together last year and I really liked him and I decided to tell him. He said that he would have said yes but he already had a girlfriend then a day or so later he broke up with her. But then i started acting like a chicken and didn't tell him that I still wanted to go out so i decided to tell him that after school i wanted to talk to him he said yes and i waited for him but he never came the next day i found out he moved. Now about a year later i find out that he is back. But i found something out his ex-best friend told me that he smokes. I hate smoke because someone I know that is really close to me almost died because of it. What should I do should? I really like him but I hate the fact that he smokes I always thought that when I found out that whenever i found ou that someone i knew did drugs of any kind i wouldn't ascoiate with them but now that it has finally happened i don't know i wanna be above the influance but...

Answer 1

What you do is stick to your convictions ,,,, It appears that you are doing ok so far ,,,, You might consider making another set of rules for yourself too ,,,, I've suggested to my daughter that she not only separate herself from smokers and drug users but also write down a list of do's and don'ts for herself and stick to these rules also ,,,, The list consists of what she will and won't do where the opposite sex is concerned ,,,, You might consider this also if you haven't already and stick to them ,,,, Usually girls with these rules are satisfied with them and they are more respected than those that don't bother ,,,, They gain the respect of both genders ,,,, As for the situation you are in now ,,,, If you don't like being around some one who smokes then stay away from them ,,,, No one can blame you for that ,,,, There are allot of people the same exact way so you aren't alone either ,,,, You don't really have a right to demand that he quit just to be involved with you ,,,, Avoid flirting with him or sending him any signals but if it should ever come up between the two of you then be truthful with him and just tell him it bothers you to be around smokers ,,,,You have no right to demand that he quit smoking but you do have the right to set your own conditions ,,,, Don't hold back ,,,, Tell him at once ,,,, That puts the ball in his court so to speak and all you can do from that point is wait and see what he does with it ,,,,You need to remember that usually people who smoke aren't willing to quit ,,,, There are allot of other fish in the pond though so to speak ,,,, Maybe you need to go fishing ,,,, Find someone that's fun and exciting to be with ,,,, Sometimes some of them even come trouble and problem free ,,,, Don't be in such a hurry to tie yourself down to just one person though ,,,, While you are still young try to get as wide a range of acquaintances as you can ,,,, Play the field so to speak ,,,, Find out who and what's out there first ,,,, This enables you to make a wiser decision as to who you'd like to settle down with when you are ready for a more involved relationship later on ,,,, Who knows ,,,,, tying yourself down to just one person too early just might cause you to miss meeting that Mr. Right ,,,, You've posted an interesting situation here and it rates a star from me ,,,, Good luck and stick to your guns ,,,, You won't regret it ,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,

Answer 2

well you got a hand full right there. well first if I was you and if I really like the dude I would date him for a couple of weeks and see if he is really into you. I f he starts loving you and you can ask him anything, ask him to star quitting for you and for his own good and tell him that you love him too much and you don't want him to get sick of something that I myself consider stupid even though I did it myself but, do this if you really think you can have a good relationship with this dude because if he doesn't love you or will not love you then you will just feel bad for yourself later on. That is what happened with me and my girl I didn't smoke just once in a while but I definitely quited because she don't like it either , I quited because of her, because I love her and anyways is a nasty habit and I don't want to die of lung cancer. good luck and may the force of life be with you.

Answer 3

Ask yourself this question: If I go out with this guy and I fall in love with him and we get married and have kids, what am I going to tell my kids when he comes home one day and says that the doctor gave him some bad news and there's something in his left lung and it doesn't look good? What will say to your kids??? Find somebody else. Let him mingle with the 23% of the population that smoke. I'm sure he'll make out fine, but you'll make out better.

Answer 4

well if i were u i'd ask him myself * beause some friends lie* and plus u said *ex-best friend* which really means u should ask him ur self but u should shake off ur nervousness ( i like to take a deep breath, trust me it helps) but the basic point to this is that u gotta try * u never know what will happen unless u try *

Answer 5

Okay, friends come and go, but your lungs will be with you for all of your days. Besides, he sounds like he doesn't take relationships seriously; dealing with him sounds like trouble later. It's up to you, but I suggest that you try meeting other people.

Answer 6

in my opinion, if the smoking thing really bothers you, then you should wait and find someone who doesnt smoke- you shouldnt lower your standards for anybody, im sure someone better will come along.

Answer 7

if it really bothers you that he smokes then dont go out with him it will just get in the way of your guy's relationship and eventually cause a break up....

Answer 8

you are incredibly immature. if you decide to start a relationship with him, he will quit if he cares about you. don't judge him; you have no right