Is it okay to ask her out....(forgot the it) >_<?

Question

Okay, this is gonna take up some space. First the history:

Back in my junior year of high school, this freshman chick i'll call D let it be known that she liked me. But i did'nt liker her until the last month of that school year. I wanted toask her out during the summer, but she already found another guy so I let it go.I never had a gf at the time.

Senior year, I still liked her, but she was still gf with the same guy. So i let it go. Middle of the school year this cute redhead asked for my number and my attention was drawn to her until around februrary(sp?). Then I got my first gf. She was a friend of D, I'll call her H. At the time I did'nt know D still liked me. She was already interested in another guy after breakin up with the first guy so i did'nt think she'd get mad but she did. SO me and H are dating until february of this year. By this time me and D are friends again. Now me and H decide we hav to see other ppl.
Now my question:
Is it okay to ask D out? more details to come.

Here is the thing though.... When me and H were going out, i told her i did'nt like D like as a love interest anymore.(Cuz we were just friends)

But now that i'm single, I am getting those feelings back and i need some advice.

Do I tell H that I am starting to like D? keep in mind D and H are friends. If so when? and how do i say it?

I dunno if D still likes me that way either, but she has mentioned that we should go out sometime. So i dunno. This is pretty hard. What should i do?

Answer 1

Wow thats confusing. Here is the thing. You like her, you ask her out.

Now D should talk to her friend about it and make sure it's ok but thats just the ethics of a friendship. Most girls have a rule you never date your friend's exes.

However, thats from her point of view. From yours, she is your ex. You don't owe her an explanation, nor do you need to ask her permission, before asking out anyone.

Though be prepared D might say No out of respect for that friendship. Or since it's been years, she might say No as not to lose your friendship.

One thing that high school taught me was to live with no regrets. Some guys always fear rejection that they are terrified of asking someone out. Then in hindsight you always wish you had. In your case, it was more of a Timing was off. But definitely go for it or you will probably always wonder what if.