am i ready to makeout? read description!!!!?

Question

im in 7th grade and... my boyfriend and i have been going out for a month and a half and we like eachother a lot. he is bestfriends with 2 of my bestfriends and they tell me he wants to makeout with me and that I should. He even tells me. Only, I WANT to but I just don't know how or what to do. I know it's pathetic asking people I don't even know about this, but it might happen tomorrow if he goes for it.. We give eachother pecks on the lips and cuddle a lot but I just don't want to do anything wrong. I'm not sure if I'm ready but I do WANT to.. I just don't know how. And also my school judges you for being 'prude' or not mostly by if you makeout with your other. So I don't want to be prude. Oh and by the way my friends who tell me to makeout with him haven't even had their first kisses yet, so they have no idea what I'm going through. please help!!!!!

Answer 1

If you have to ask us, obviously you're not ready yet. You'll learn as you grow older that the worst thing you can ever do is something just because someone else wants you to.

Take your time. What's the rush? You're in 7th grade.

Answer 2

I'm praying that you will see this answer in time. Please believe when I say that I was once in 7th grade, and had the same concerns you are expressing now. I wanted to be popular; I wanted to have everybody like me, and I thought that was the way to do it. Thank GOD, my parents kept me on a pretty short leash.

You're in 7th grade! I teach at a middle school now (Yes, your "friends" will scoff at me and tell you I'm just an old lady), and it's one of my most fearful concerns. I see kids walking down the hall with their arms wrapped around each other; sometimes the boy has his hand stuck just slightly inside the back of the girl's pants or maybe his arm is hanging over her shoulder, with his fingertips resting on her breast. When I separate them, they say there is nothing wrong with it, and I reply that that is the very reason they shouldn't be doing it. The boys in these instances have NO respect for the girls. They're more interested in showing the other guys how far this girl will let him go; and what a lot of boys see, they want for themselves.

Emotional and even sexual feelings are going to occur in your young life. The test of maturity is NOT in having those feelings, but in HANDLING those feelings. If you're a Christian, use the convictions of your faith. If not, think about the day when you are ready to be committed to one man. Do you really want a guy who has lots of experience (and lots of girls) in his past? Would you not always wonder if he is comparing you to some of those girls? Honesty is always the key to a successful relationship. Are you ready to tell every boy/man in your future about all the guys with whom you have been intimate?

"Making out," "necking," "fooling around," no matter what you call it . . . . . . . it's going to feel great for a while, and then you (and he) are going to want just a little more . . . and a little more . . . and a little more . . . and where is going to stop? He's going to tell the guys about it, and maybe even embellish his story. Girls, for the most part, are more private about their intimate relationships, but you'll tell a few close friends, and maybe even you will embellish the story a little.

Your feelings and emotions are natural, and apparently you are a pretty bright (if also confused) young lady. You were smart enough to ask, now I'm praying that you are smart enough to care about yourself and to know that YOU are going to have to live with yourself, not only now, but in the future. If you and this young man stay together and someday get married, then that's great. But neither one of you are ready to make that decision now. Save those special feelings for that special time, that special man who will someday walk into your life and into your heart. It may be one the boys you know now. When you reminesce about your school days, make sure that there is nothing in those memories you would be truly sorry about.

I'm working late tonight; so I'm writing this in my classroom, looking out over the empty desks and picturing each one of the precious 100+ students I teach. I am praying that you and they will exercise the proper judgement in making decisions that will have a lasting impact on your lives. Good luck! I have faith that you will not make the decision that will give you pleasure now and regrets later, but one that will help you mature and be proud of yourself in years to come. I hope I've said something right! God bless you.

Answer 3

Young lady i'm here to tell you that you are not ready for any hanky panky at your age your mind should be on school right now and not trying to pull your panties down so hit the books and stay in school and get a career and what if you happen to get pregnant can you guys take care of a baby i don't think so and tell your friends who are not friends if they want you making out at your age to get a life and do their homework or something not the time for you to be thinking of making out take care young lady.

Answer 4

Baby-girl i know exactly where u r coming from. Please don't waste your virginity on any 7th grade boy. You will look back one day and regret it. As far as your school if they make fun of you tell them to shove it up the***. Because you have some self-respect, and dignity. You've got alot on you already, and doing it with a 7th grade boy is just too young and fast. you got a lot of years ahead of you, don't waste them Please?? It will cause some bad side effects too. If you start doing things just because of stupid peer pressure then Baby-Doll you got something on you I don't want on me, and that's too much pressure. You need to learn to stand up for your values and if others don't respcet that then they aren't worth hanging around. i KNOW MOST ASSUREDLY YOU DON"T WANT TO HEAR THIS !but it comes from the bottom of my heart TRUTHFULLY..I MUST ADD IF YOU HAVE TO WALK ALONE, THEN WALK PROUD AND HEAD HELD HIGH-YOU MIGHT JUST INSPIRE SOMEONE ELSE. YOU PROBABLY DON'T THINK THIS IS A GOOD ANSWER. bUT I'M SORRY IT'S TIME SOME GIRLS STOOD UP FOR WOMEN EVERYWHERE AND HAVE SOME FAITH IN THEIR SELF AND SOME INTEGRITY-GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE YOU MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION.

Answer 5

Don't be pressured into doing things out of peer pressure. Your only in seventh grade. I would suggest you to talk to your mom about this so that she can give you the best advise that good for you . Remember you mom went through the same things when she was a little girl. Part of being mature and growing into a adult is humbling yourself and asking questions.

Answer 6

Maybe wait until your older, same thing happened to me while in middle school with my first 'bf' but it never felt right...

When you meet the right person, you dont really think much about it, it kinda just happens in the spur of the moment, no thoughts just feelings....

I dont think your ready yet... wait until the right person comes along, when the moment comes, you wont have to think about how to do it or what you should do.. it just happens and fireworks just go off inside your mind :)

Wait until your a bit older, dont fall for peer pressure, follow your instincts and it will be alright :)

Answer 7

7th grade u are so not ready i assumed your are smart cos the fact u said "Oh and by the way my friends who tell me to makeout with him haven't even had their first kisses yet"friends can mislead u sometimes i think u should focus on skool first then mayb when u are in junior high then u can start thinking of that

Answer 8

i first made out in 7th grade, and it really wasnt that hard, all you really need to remember is to go slowly at first and pick up the pace a little when you get into it. its sorta hard to describe, but if you go to youtube and type in making out, you should come up with a wide variety of videos that can show you what to do by watching others. and [i know this is gross but try to deal with it] the ones that are same-sex making out are normally much more intricate than the couples ones. hope i could help

Answer 9

I know you don't want to hear this but here goes.....
who cares who judges you at your school, wouldn't you rather be called a prude than a whore or having every boy in your school wanting to date you becasue your easy?

Answer 10

sis, im in 9th grade and listen to this...
this dude named Ricky was da luv of ma life... his friend said that he liked me and i said "That's nice..." then i walked away... im not here to preach 2 u, but i just wanna tell u my opinion...
i think that i would rather that u didnt make out.. wait till u get married.. i know that this sounds stupid but ull appreciate it later...dont ever ever feel pressured 2 do somethin u dont want 2 or r uncomfortable with... its hard 2 explain, but its a decision that 2 people make, not 1 person for both...
God Bless U...