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2007-02-28 12:02:58 · 6 answers · asked by mart_siao 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, and no. I was in two separate relationships at each of those ages and discussed marriage with both of the guys in question, and although we were not formally engaged, I can't tell you how blessed I am that neither one went through.
At 18, I had just graduated high school. My world was limited to my classmates and the small town I was from, and my reality was more dreamy and dramatic than grounded in common sense. I'd dated a guy for almost a year at this point, and we thought we were in love. However, at the time, I knew it all ... so I thought! People change at this age, and besides, it's hard to pay bills with no education or when only one person has a good job. Might be easy now, but when babies come ...
At 20.5, I was almost done with college and had been dating the same guy since my freshman year. I knew a little more about the career I wanted, how to pay bills, and how to be responsible, but it was a drop in the bucket compared to what I knew about MYSELF. I was still insecure about my skills, what I should do with my life, and who I was outside of the relationship. I'd grown a little, but not a lot. At this age, it's easier to make a marriage work if you go into it for the right reasons and if you have a solid agreement about how you'll handle your money. This means a PLAN, not just idle talk about how you'll save a little, pay the bills, and everything will be A-OK.
My best advice to you is to live a little. It is a scary idea because it involves uncertainty, but it helps you meet yourself. The time you put into your education NOW is like money in the bank -- there is no other time outside of your youth that it will be this easy to go to school and get the training you need for a lifetime. Also, if a relationship seems like it takes an insane amount of work just to continue, then it may not be meant to be. Don't rush into something because it seems to be the logical next step, and especially not if you're trying to fix things. Best of luck, sweetie.
2007-02-28 14:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by dandy_lion26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about practical, but people are doing it. I was 19 years old and had been in a commited relationship for 4 years when I was 19. Now I'm almost 22 years old been married 3 years together 7 years and I still have no regrets. It depends on if your on the same page. My husband and I discuss this from time to time and I say that not everyone would have made it as far as we have. We are very mature and responsible. We own a home, and have a daughter. It's really not about age, it's about of your really ready to commit yourself to one person for the rest of your lives. Where you see yourselves in 10+ years. Marriage is not for everyone. Be wise in your decision making.
2007-02-28 15:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by J*A*K*C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is practical if you know you are truly in love and know what marriage means... It is a devotion of your life and a sacrificing of yourself for another person. I am 19 and going to be married this year to my fiance who is 20. We love each other very much and have discussed what we know serious issues ( money, children etc) could hurt our relationship, so we talk very openly. We have been dating for about a year and a half and do feel financially secure enough as well. You do need to realize what you are getting yourself into though before you just jump in. There is a lot to think about before getting married other than just age...
2007-02-28 12:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practically in 1970 but not 2007.
2007-02-28 12:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! That is way too young, experience life first then settle down, not the other way around. That's how young marriages end.
2007-03-03 15:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at either age.
2007-02-28 12:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋