I'm 23 yr old female dealing with an experienced 30 yr old. for 7months..oh and I'm a virgin also..yes ppl find it hard to believe (I look cute). I wanna tell him but I'm scared he would be put off by it and stop talking to me. Just never did the deed due to first love being locked up and no one seemed worth it...I dont wanna lose this guy...so I thought about faking it and just saying it's been awhile or a friend told me to have sex with one of my best friends who's a guy of course I have thought of everything but just don't know what to do!....Only serious advise please!
2007-02-28 12:02:07 · 16 answers · asked by Superfly21 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not saving it for religious reasons...adn forget the sleeping with my best friend thats just going down!
2007-02-28 12:11:27 · update #1
this guy must be really interested in forming a relationship with you, if he has been with you for 7 months without exploring your sexual ,or in your case nonsexual behaveior. being a virgin is nothing to be taken lightly, it shows you have values,and take life serious. i think that will make you more attractive to him, he would be crazy to pass you by. good luck.
2007-02-28 12:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by mister c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think a 30 year old is even looking at a 23 year old? Because he knows it can't have been that many places. If after 7 months he hasn't tried to get them off, that is rather wierd in this day and age anyways. Forget the lies and the "get a friend to do it". When the issue comes up, handle it like the adult you are trying to be.
2007-02-28 12:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him but pick your moment...maybe try to make a joke of it in a light-hearted way. "Oops! BTW I forgot to lose my virginity!"
And 23 is not too old to be a virgin...I have known virgins who are much older and not because they were 'saving themselves' or anything like that....same as you, it just hadn't happened.
If he's worth it as you say, he should be honoured you think he is worthy of being your first and will not be freaked out.
If you decide to go for it, don't do anything you don't want to do and please remember to use a condom. And don't be disappointed if your first time isn't all fireworks...sometimes it takes a while to get into the groove but as they say, practice makes perfect ;->....
2007-02-28 12:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Green eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In "Seven Months" Of dating the subject of "Sex" never came up? I find that hard to belive. You have waited this long to stay a virgin and that my friend is something that you should be damn proud about, please save it for the one your going to marry, trust me its alot better that way. If this guy doesnt respect your wishes then he isnt the one for you, would you being a virgin have to do with religion? Just save it for marriage that is the best gift you can give too someone on your wedding day. Save it.
2007-02-28 12:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Tell him the truth!
I think he would be very pleased and if he really likes you, he will respect you and wait until you are ready.
Many guys find virginity a very nice thing, tell him the truth, if you start lying to him now, then why even bother being with someone you dont feel confortable with, or even honest?
If he doesnt accept it or support it, maybe hes not the guy you should be with to begin with. Good luck :)
2007-02-28 12:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Niña 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best to just tell the truth, lies in a relationship are never good. And if he's as good as you think he is, he'll respect you because of it and he won't make a huge fuss over it. To be honest, he'll probably really like that fact, a lot of guys have a thing for virgins...
2007-02-28 12:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound awfully immature for 23, virginity is a very valuable thing, you're supposed to keep yourself pure, not a ho. A friggin dog can have sex--save your body for the man you marry. This is something you can give only one time, you're insane if you have sex with a friend, are you a person or a thing? girls with class don't spread their legs for just anyone.
2007-02-28 12:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl plz dont go throwing your virginity away at some guy you dont even care about seriously you just said that you were waiting for somebody worth it and you think this 30 yr old is worth it so just tell him that youve never had sex but dont tell him hes the one or blah blah blah cause then he will freak out just play it cool and hell respect you for it
2007-02-28 12:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
must have is the "appropriate" answer. It comes from a re-prognosis of "ought to've" and it really is turning out to be so common now that it ought to probable result finished language shift interior using words that curently cliticise "have“ to the top.
2016-12-05 02:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by lemanski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i wuld love to be able to take some chicks virginity if she was willing he would be turned on by it rather than scared just wait till you think you found the right guy to do it with
2007-02-28 12:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by Metalup87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋