see theres this guy i like an his asked me out a couple of time but i kept blowing him off because im afraid of relationships..and i cant open up to any of the guys ive ever been w/ and when i do i end up messing things up. but i really want to try it wit this guy...can it be because of my relationship with my parents i mean i dont want to blame them but they always say that things that happen in our past affect our futures..and since my REAL dad abanded me can that me it..while if u need to know more you can either IM me or MESSAGE me its all on my pro thanks
2007-02-28 11:56:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A trauma in your past.
Confront it, by talking about it with a very close friend.... then give love a try! :)
2007-02-28 12:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's easy to get pulled into a serious relationship for the first time and as women we do treat every little thing as a HUGE, HUGE, HUGE thing, however f a guy likes you then he should want to see you/ talk to you and not after 30 minutes, if you're not happy ditch him, there's no point sitting around waiting. You've waited this long before a serious a few more months won't hurt, but a few months waiting "just to see what happens between you" will hurt. He sounds like a user and don't think after a while 'Oh, he really does like me' he's a guy his d*ck likes you.
2016-03-29 04:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to accept yourself before you can be ready for anyone else in your life. Just because your father left, does not mean all men are jerks. You sound like, you are still very hurt by your father abandoning you. This, of course, will make you scared of other male relationships.
Talk to your mother or another adult. Counseling is a great "safe" place to talk. Your conversations will be kept confidently. You have got to accept what has happened to you. Then and only then, can you move forward in other bonding relationships.
God Bless.
2007-02-28 12:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by dpeeeee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Linda, I think you should stop worrying so much. We can all do whatever we pretty much make up our minds to do, and I bet if you make up your mind to be a brave adult and build a good relationship with some guy, you'll certainly do your part.
How are your other relationships? Do you get along with a friend or two? Do you have a mentor or other older person that you enjoy spending time with? Can you be counted on to make it to a luncheon on time, with pretty hat and gloves in place?
If you can do these things, you're certainly ready to embark on a 'real' relationship. Neither yo' mama, yo' daddy, nor anybody else will be in that relationship with this guy--just you!
Make the best of it and enjoy!
2007-02-28 12:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey. u no i am afraid of relationships too and that is because io dont want to get hurt and that mybe y u r to... u seem to be hurt so much that you may feel that u cant handle anymore pain but its better to take a chance because he isnt rejecting u and making u hurt, ur rejecting him. u need to give this guy a chance... but i know how hard it is so u should tell gthe guy if u do date him y u rejected him and maybe all will be forgiven and he will not feel as bad. good luck with it!
2007-02-28 12:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by mary m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Helloo, girl u ok? cuz u sound really affected in ur life.. remember life's such a gift and we should go 4 it no matter what!. Go on, b brave, and go out with the man for Heaven`s sake! He maybe can make u happy and feel loved.. and I also think it has almost everything to do with ur dad.. sorry.
oxox, good luck, keep ur chin up!.
2007-02-28 12:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda think you're afraid of commitment. come to think of it, your dad leaving you behind has nothing to do with you anymore. he left because he chose to left, there was nothing that you can do about it. and i know about trauma. sometimes, when our parents relationship doesnt work out, it somehow effect us in a way that we're gonna be afraid to commit ourselves into relationship as well. but, you deserve to have a life and be happy. if you like the guy, go for it! you will never know if you never try.
2007-02-28 12:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by williams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of reasons
-your scared to makeout
-your scared of being hurt, so you cant depend on people. Even if you are, you have to open up, you never know if the relationship is going to work otu or not, and if it does, your going to miss ur chance, everyone gets hurts sometimes.
-your afriad he might think your boring
-your afriad hes using you
choose one and fix your probelm...
2007-03-01 00:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by The Sweetest Sin Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um i thanks ur normal i mean its hard no and days to trust people and just fall in love with just anyone i mean thanking about ur day will leave u along and that's not tha way u wanna live ur life im sure.......but take ur time its all up 2 u but u should let him know that u like him b4 he move on 2 someone new
2007-02-28 12:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way.
We should message, once things start going good I walk away.
I think its just a maturity thing.
2007-02-28 12:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋