to anyone who answered my previous question about me not being able to get over this person after i moved: well, i finally took some of you ppls advice and called him since he never goes on IM. well.... it was ok, not bad...not exactly good either. it was a 1 min. 57 sec. conversation in 8 months. that is sad. what should i do? i mean, if he really missed me like i missed him, he wouldn' t have said bye that fast. i mean seriously, it wasn't like i hung up on him or was being a beyotch. what should i take from that. i don't really wanna call him again and seem desperate but i still miss him..
2007-02-28 11:50:48 · 9 answers · asked by peachyfuzz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe u should just get over him because i KNOW what it is like when that happens but if u keep hanging on then when u realize that u have to let go it will hurt so much more than it will now. He prolly has new friends and is trying to move on with his life.
2007-02-28 11:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by mary m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. The relationship was long over but I couldn't get her off my mind. It stayed like that for over a year. It finally began to fade, but somehow I felt better knowing I cared about someone so much, even though it wasn't mutual. I feel it demonstrated my ability to love, and that offered me some solace. I made mistakes during that year that I now regret, I acted like somebody I'm not. I sent numerous texts, and an ocassional small gift in the mail. I made a jerk out of myself quite frankly. All the while though I still felt good about how much i loved her, hoping i would feel that way about someone else down the line, only this time it would be mutual. Well,,,, guess what ?
Three years later it has happened. I have met the most wonderful person. I feel every bit as strong this time as I did last time, but my current love is much more giving than the former. I know I have met a soul- mate and life has never been better.
My suggestion is to let this person go, but don't feel bad about your feelings toward him, rather be pleased with what you have learned about yourself. That you are a loving caring person who is capable of giving her heart away. Then be patient and never settle for less than what you give, and one day the love of your life will appear. You will know exactly how to handle it when it happens, because of all the lessons you have learned along the way,
Best wishes Sister,
Greg
2007-02-28 20:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by gwade29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go read a really big, multi-chaptered book. I don't mean this in a bad way.
Right now, you need some time to just get over him. You are running all cylinders on pure emotions so you can't see the obvious.....it's over.
So find some other interests that will occupy your time and mind besides him. And given enough time, you will see that these feelings will pass, which is why we shouldn't act on feelings in the first place.
2007-02-28 19:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you miss him?
Aren't you enough for you? Do you really need someone else for you to feel okay about yourself, to feel complete?
My advice would be to completely and utterly and absolutely drop this - he is history - no phone calls, no messages, no begging, no pleading - nothing.
Okay - you've dropped him - now you need to start loving yourself - really do it - you are perfect just the way you are and you already have everything that you need. When you love and accept yourself as you are you will draw a mate that will be much more compatible with you.
Good luck.
FP
2007-02-28 19:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i didnt answer your last question but i understand where u are driving at,from what u said it looks like he still miss you but doesnt want to tell that to himself because he doesnt know how u feel and dont want to get hurt so i suggest u call him again and ask him i assume he is a shy guy u dont really expect much from them ,so u do the talking if u really miss him then he will open up and tell if he still have any feelings ok,will like to know what he said will u hit me back?
2007-02-28 20:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guess is that he was just nervous. he didn't want it to be too awkward, but he didn't want either of you to be too uncomfortable. i say on your next day off, a few days before ((lets say your going to be getting off work early this Friday)) well on maybe Wednesday ((tomorrow- or maybe wait til next week)) text him and a few friends saying "hey everyone, got a few people together to go to '____' for the night to have fun, carpool with us we have a DD and it's going to be a lot of fun. it would be great if you could join!" and even if you just send it to a few people hopefully he'll get back to you with a yes or no and try to start up a convo. if he says yes and only one or two other people are interested, just say- the day of- well i guess this is the only people who could come. it'll be a neutral environment and you don't even have to be one-on-one with him the entire time.
good luck
2007-02-28 20:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by dnizzledancin2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats not very good coz when i call my guy, it takes like 50 minutes before we stop..and i'm out of the country right now..won't be back till, i don't know, 5 years from now..but anyways, well it's obvious that he doesn't want you anymore. just get over him. but i know that's nice so easy. but you gotta do it..
good luck with it.
2007-02-28 20:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by i<3mybf.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is telling u to get lost in a nice way
2007-02-28 19:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by crystal w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on
2007-02-28 19:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by ipfreely91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋