I have completely lost it. I'm getting married in September and I was so excited, so happy. Today changed all that. My fiance asked me if I would mind not spending so much money on our wedding (I'm only planning on spending $3000) if he found us a house as opposed to renting an apartment for a year. That seemed like the wiser choice until we got on our feet, but with this we'll have to worry about a down payment. This was my first money worry.
Then I went home to talk to my mom about it. She pulled me in front of her and goes, "Do you think you can handle paying all your bills and not getting help from me when you're married and not have a nervous breakdown." Then she smiled. It made me so mad. She basically just discouraged the crap out of me. All the hope and all the happiness I had towards this has been thrown out the window. I'm left sad, worried, stressed to the max. I should be happy. Now I'm trying to plan a wedding under $2000. I don't know what to do.
2007-02-28 11:46:40 · 7 answers · asked by New mommy 2010! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My parents said they would pay for the catering (a big expense), but that I needed to find a cheap place to get married. There's a place for $500, but it doesn't include much. There's other stuff that will have to be bought.
Also, I'm getting married in 6 months. I was so excited about getting married then. I don't want to wait 2 years to get married. I want it to be simple, but I don't know how to make it that way.
2007-02-28 11:48:15 · update #1
I also was never a girl that wanted to spend a whole lot. I actually never put much thought into a wedding other than not wanting to spend a lot. I still feel that way, but I also don't want it to be a thrown together mess with no meaning. I want it to be simple, but special. I may not be completely like other girls, but I still am a girl and I want it to be meaningful. If I didn't want that, I would just get married in a courthouse, but I want it to be in front of my family and friends and his family and friends.
2007-02-28 11:50:20 · update #2
OMG! I am getting married September too! On the 2nd. We just got engaged, last Christmas. So I know what it is like to have such little time. I also know how you are feeling about the budget, mine is only $4000.00, and we are buying a house also! Look, I have done so much research I cant even be live it, and I can probably help you a lot! You should email me at robinson.elise@gmail.com and I can give you my phone number and you can call me for more help! I have learned great ways to cut your costs way down and some really great places to get some super cheap wedding dresses! Really, if you give me a call, I can seriously help you! And I can help you look into some first time home buyers grants too! If you are a first time buyer.
Good luck,
Elise
2007-02-28 11:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Wifey! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll be ok ( : really! Don't let other ppl stress you out because this is YOUR day! I am planning an inexpensive wedding and have found that sites like perfectweddingguide.com, brides.com, ourweddingday.com, theknot.com have really helped with the budgeting. And my suggestion is not to mess with the details because that is where things really get expensive (like buying expensive linens for chairs and many other things) Also, when doing your guest list, you can cut out ppl you haven't talked to in years and coworkers etc. They'll understand if you don't invite them because they aren't a really big part of your life. You can even have the wedding ceremony at the justice of the peace and your guests can be present at the court house. It is ALOT cheaper. Then afterwards, you can find a nice reception hall (even a school gym) which may sound tacky, but it really isn't because you can dress it up nice with cheap decorations! It will turn out fine, besides, this day isn't about being fancy, it is about you and your future hubby dedicating yourselves to each other, THAT should be the highlight of your special day. Best wishes and congrats!!!
2007-02-28 21:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LULU! Look at the questions you are asking. You pulled the one about the ring (only $130) and why are yousad, etc...look at what you are saying? Take a step back please and reconsider if this is the best thing for you to do at all. I don't know you at all, but you seem to be asking some questions here that would cause me concern if my daughter was asking them.
2007-02-28 22:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Iamstitch2U 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best advice for u is to go to ebay and buy your dress and i go to dollar store for like the plates and silverware and u can rent tables and chairs and a big tent for like 150.00 and get a dj cost about 250.00 and have people bring a dish to pass i hope this advice helps. also try to get a place to rent that goes by your in come. good luck with every thing
2007-02-28 19:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by crystal w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to Vegas, get a chapel, room, limo all included package, have everyone who wants to go pay their own way. I bit you can find something for under 2000. Good luck, and don't let anyone ruin your special day.
2007-02-28 19:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you with you mom, have you and her always been close? she may be trying to scare you to maybe keep control. my mom is one of those who if its not her way its no ones way
good luck to you
2007-02-28 21:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
:D happy time and sexy time!!!
2007-02-28 19:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋