Ok, well i've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now.....im a 9th grader....We're very very very innocent, and many find us ( imature ) because we dont make out, he doesn't finger me, no blowjobs, no sex, no nothing.....and i'm very happy with that, i mean, I am glad it's that way, but sometimes i feel like I want a little more sexual attention, a little ounce of feeling sexy or something......and I dont' know how to get my boyfriend to get a little excited to where he'll do anything as innocent as feel me up or spank me or comment on something.....i know it's stupid, but he's not like many other guys, he's very very moralled, and I want to get him horny just a little bit....I don't want sex or oral or anything, just tease him a little ya know?
2007-02-28 11:28:52 · 11 answers · asked by Tianella R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl u done a good job keeping a boyfriend since grade 7!! i think its not immature at all not geting into physical side of a relationship at such a younge age, i think its rather mature of you to respect yours (and his) body in such a way. youre still very young, grade 9 isnt even close to finishing school so dont feel embarassed or ashamed if you havent got 'intimate' with him just yet. im sure he will when he feels comfortable. i know what you mean though with wanting a bti more attention. maybe you could talk to him about that rather than changing yourself or getting ideas on ways to grab his attention (sexually). id advise you not to go out an buying short skirts an low cut tops, if anything it will make you look cheap and tarty. tell him how you feel, honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship, let him know that it doesnt hurt to compliment you every so often, that it IS okay to kiss/make out if and that doing those thigns DONT necessarily lead to sex or oral sex. he sounds to me like a fantastic guy and is strong on his morals which is a good thing in todays society, dont lose this one but make sure he konws where you stand too and that he doesnt hold you back. good luck!
2007-02-28 11:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if the two of you have a really kind gentle respectful relationship, I would recommend talking to him.
Just tell him how much you care for him and respect him, that you have grown up together and that you just want to know that he has noticed that you are not a kid anymore. Then put his hand on your bum or on you boob and give him a snog if that does not at least get a tingle in the trouser snake department there is something wrong!
Good luck, it is nice to hear that there are you people having a good time and enjoying each other without being made to feel they have to be having sex, you have my respect! xx
2007-02-28 11:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by tigger_pooh_on_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start, I'm English where you are clearly not, and so I have to say that I've no idea what age someone in the 9th Grade is.
However, with that said, to desire to 'turn someone on just a little' is like playing around fuel with lighted matches.
I can understand and can appreciate your motives, but that's not being fair to him - to test him - to make him sweat a little - to 'tease' him. Think, what would it be like if her were to tease you ...and then just walk away from the results?
Keep open the lines of communication, be honest about how you feel ...and do NOT play games with other people feelings ....even if you like having others play with yours.
We are all NOT the same (in our levels of sensitivity and appreciations of what might be considered as 'fun').
If you really like him and have feelings for him.... then be fair to him.
Sash.
2007-02-28 11:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by sashtou 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he gets horny anyway but controls it well, you've got to admire him for that.
Enjoy just being close to each other, there's plenty of time for sex when you're both ready, sex is wonderfull between people who love each other but don't rush into it, just enjoy being young
2007-02-28 11:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by ranwyld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man! that's how 9th graders are these days?
girl, you need to focus on your study!
and don't bother your boyfriend or lead him to wrong way.
you have only few years to enjoy your innocence.
enjoy it while it last!
you can get sexual attention later when you grow up!
2007-02-28 11:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if your home alone with him and watching a movie "accidently" spill something on your shirt and take it off for him! hahaha that'll get him going ;)
ps-make sure your wearing a really sexy bra underneath
oh and good job for remaining so innocent!! very proud of u chickie!!
good luck!!
2007-02-28 11:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Savannah 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wear your tightest jeans, crawl across his knee, wriggle your bottom and say, "Honey, I've been such a naughty girl...." If that doesn't get you spanked nothing will.
2007-02-28 12:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
er right well em maybe u should fucus on somthing else u know what i mean-
2007-02-28 12:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by lloydpaul2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
@ your age you should wait a bit. just my 2 cents.
2007-02-28 11:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
do it to him first. rub your hands on his chest or something. or you could ask him to. just make sure it doesnt go too far.
2007-02-28 11:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by Love Doctor 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋