Should I have not spanked my daughter?

Question

she's 5, I caught her kissing another 5 year old boy in the basement. Plus her shirt was off. I beat her like there was no tomorrow.

Answer 1

This is very serious. This can very well be that one of those kids is being sexually abused by someone, and then that kid is acting out on the other kid. You need to talk to the parents of that 5 year old and find out what is going on over at that house.

Answer 2

I do believe in spanking I think it would have helped more than half the teenage population if they would have been spanked more often. However in this case I think a better approach could have been taken. I use to teach pre-k and kids are curious and mimic what they see. Chances are your daughter or the little boy had seen topless kissing somewhere and wanted to play. I think I might have asked why they were playing like that and explained that it is not the proper way for little girls to play with little boys.

Answer 3

You should have disciplined her, to the extent of "beating her" no. She could be traumatized by it and never want to be with a boy again. She may have learned this behavior by watching TV or watching other adults do this in front of her. You should really sit down and explain why it is wrong for her right now, and when she is much older she can express herself in this way. Remind her that you love her and what it means to act like a lady.

Answer 4

Beating a child is child abuse. You should never ever abuse a child. A 5 year old don't know any better. Do you want her to think kissing is a bad thing? Well she will. They didn't do anything wrong. Thats normal for children at that age. All you had to do is sit down and talk to her. What is wrong with you?

Answer 5

You should let her know what is the meaning of kiss?

Why shouldn't kiss another boy. And also teach her not to have her clothes, pants, underwear off in front of boys.

The body is private of everyone, not to explode to others.

I think she didn't do anything wrong. If you beat her without any reasons, it will harm her growth.

Answer 6

So you're the 45 year old guy who wants to break up with a 'hot 18 year old- because SHE has issues' and want to sleep with a married woman now...
I wonder where your daughter (if she exists) learned this...could it be from the example you set with your girlfriends?

Answer 7

Did she learn this behavior from someone? That would have been my first concern. You should never punish a child out of anger. You should have explained to your daughter why this was wrong. If she did it again punish her in an appropriate way.

Answer 8

First of all you should not hit your child. You should not have beat her just cause she was kissing a boy. I would have sat them both down and questioned them but definitely not have made a big deal about what had gone on.

I seriously hope this is a joke because otherwise you need to have your child taken away from you since you clearly aren't the proper person to raise a kid.

Answer 9

NO, hitting out of anger is wrong, you should have talked to her and let her know what she did was wrong and why it was wrong. Also you may want to find out where she learned how to do what she did. I do believe in spanking for the right reason's, but beating out of anger and she may not even know what she did was wrong

Answer 10

you shuold not beat your child


she didn't nkow what she is doing. she is 5... she can't even read.

its like all the other kids do by playing "doctor" ... she doesn't nkow any better.

instead of beating her you should have had a talk with her about how that is very innappropriate. violence, especially with yoru child, is NEVER the answer.