Muslim Girl, 16, HELP..please?

Question

my entire life so far feels like its been hell. my friends all hang out with guys i'm not allowed to hang out with boys, im a muslim girl...im 16...its really hard. i dont mean this to sound conceited but I have a decent amount of friends...i went to sweet sixteen and my mom found a picture of me with a guys arm around me at a sweet sixteen and its a huge deal in my family right now my mom keeps telling me how im going to hell and hanging with the wrong muslims and blahblah all this ****. i dont know what to do. someone please help me. i know its wrong, but how do i stop temptations when im with guys in school? my mom said shes never leting me out of the house and shes considering sending me away over something christians and other races take for granted.

not sexual temptations but i cant even have guy friends and im a realy outgoing person so its hard

Answer 1

I beleive nothing you can do until you now. But when you are 18 years old, you have the right to choose what religion you want. In Islam there is no freedom of will and too many discrimination againt human right.

Answer 2

Sister i can understand the temptations to hang around with the opposite sex at this age, even if its not for sexual temptations. But realize you can have the same amount of fun when you hang out with girls. And the fact is even though your intentions may just be to have fun, its very natural that guys will see you more then just a friend, especially at that age. Islam gives very high regard to womens modesty and therefore there are restrictions to protect it. Please listen to your mom and don't let guys put arms around you, its for your own good.

Answer 3

I'm not muslim, but can I give you some non-Quran advice?

temptations exist. there's no stopping that. technically the best way to resist them is to have your mind under control. if your mind says "I will not" but your body says "I will", then you need to excersize self-control. Some times this means going on what some call a "materuial fast", where you discipline your mind by not giving it what it desires.

Here's a principle I learned when I was younger: if you want to defeat an enemy, cut of its fuel sorce. If the temptation of disobedience or lust lingers, cut yourself off from lustful images, lustful discussions, and the like, or gradually be more obedient.

Answer 4

At sixteen life seems so overwhelming. At sixteen I was having my 1st child. I think its because my parents didn’t care to warn me. All my friends were guys. Now I converted to Islam and see the value of a girl’s life. I know it seems that your parents are being tough but it is to be better for you. Also it could be that your parents are being to rough in sending you message of their concerns. Take a step back look at how they see things you are to them a a pearl and that want to keep you safe. Once you lose you innocence’s it will never be given back. Also, once it is given it can never be special again. You are blessed with parents who care. Inshallah you will get to see this. Also in many Christian societies it’s the same religion has nothing to do with protecting a young girl. Try to get involved with MSA in your area

Answer 5

Since I am not muslim at present, I will not address those issues. As a Christian, I will tell you about the freedom Christ offers to his followers. Yes, one of the current tests, is that many true Christians realize that the scriptural old testament is the law of Moses; not Genesis-Malachi.(To see it, apply 2 Tim.3:16-17; then the two or more witnesses principle, Matt.18:16). (There are a few other tests too in this country (USA) presently).

Answer 6

There are lots of girls pretty slim intelligent and they dont even look at guys, its about being strong minded, one thing leads to another, if the guys is good, respectable then fair enough, but if they are guys who just flirt, drink sex etc, then you will lose you self respect and dignity, one thing leads to another you parents are just protecting you , they have seen the world before you have and they know how their kids are and say and do this out of your best intrest, why do you care so much about guys anywa, arent there important things in life to worry about, you maybe just a insecure, unattractive girl who cant control herself and is maybe desperate, i dont beliver you are born in the West, otherwise you wont ask a question like this , pretty slim light skinned girls always resist tempation, they are smart and have respect, why not follow them hey, your a loser man.

Answer 7

May the peace, blessing and mercy of God be upon you

Sister, please realize you are something precious. You are a Muslim girl, the most valuable thing there is. You do not want to lose that value by hanging out with guys. I know maybe the guys don't seem to be doing that right now, but trust me they will eventually try. I live in London, Ontario, Canada and my lebanese friends are far from the straight path.

Please stay on the straight path, I know its hard when parents are strict, but remember they love you, and thats why the say this. If they didn't they wouldn't care, like most of your friends probably. When they do bad things with boys their parents don't care. Why? Because they do not value the true value of a girl.

Stay with good friends

peace be with you

your muslim brother

Answer 8

Are you saying that when you're near guys you get tempted to have sex with them or something? And I'm really sorry I don't know how to answer your question. But I think if you talk to your mom about it you both can compromise on rules or something. Besides, she's being a hypocrite if she says you're going to hell while she's imprisoning you from having fun. It's not like you're gonna have sex or anything.....Good luck.

Answer 9

You have to look at it this way...Your parents are old and set in their ways..they take religion very seriously. You have to explain to them, that these are new times, and that they must trust you. Even though you are only 16, you know what you are doing, and it is nothing disgraceful. Ask them for one more chance to redeem your self in their eyes, and then don't keep any pictures like that anymore..boys will get you into trouble no matter what your beliefs are...

Answer 10

Your mother is doing her duty, many of these "christian and other races" mothers are like apes, they have sex with multiple partners, have several divorces, take pills for the ensuing depression and stress, and obviously this would lead their children to imitate their natural role-model.

Please research more about these "christians and other races", how they are so decadent and have so much depression and schizophrenia, which is rare in Muslim societies, especially those with Islamic law.

I don't think it is against Islam for you to meet other boys your age, but it is against Islam for them to touch you in any way, because that leads to pre-marital sex in most cases. I recommend for you to ask related questions to Islamic scholars at Islamicity.com or another web site where you can get advice on if these things, and if your mother is acting out of religious duty or man-made traditions.