I have a boyfriend named James Me and James dont know eachother very well. We barely even knew eachother when we started going out, and i feel like there is something missing. And now its getting worse. Over the last couple of months i have really gotten to know this one particular boy. He is in many of my classes and we hang out with eachother alot. I have begun to fall for him. But it hurts me because i dont wanna hurt James. But me and Trevor have something, James and I dont. And thats what scares me. People swear me and James are perfect for eachother but to me something is missing. We barely ever talk! We dont act like a couple! Part of me wants to dump him and part of me doesnt! i dont wanna look like some trashy girl, i dont wanna hurt james and i expecially dont wanna hurt myslef by dumping James for Trevor and never getting anywhere. My friends all say Trevor likes me but yet also say i have something great with James. Im afraid to tell my friends. what should i do??????????
2007-02-28 11:16:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For everyone saying that i should sit down with James and talk to him. theres another problem. he isnt the kind of perosn to just sit down and talk about this kind of stuff. i wish he was! but i shouldnt be talking cause i really dont have the guts to anyways. idk, for osme reason i feel like we didnt fall in love with eachother, we fell in love with just saying we have a bf or gf!
2007-02-28 11:29:01 · update #1
You're a mess. Sleep with both of them. Whichever one gets you off better, go with him.
2007-02-28 11:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen people with money marry someone else with money because that's what everyone says they should do. If you're really feeling like you don't have a connection, at least sit down and talk with James. Maybe he's just new at being in a relationship or just not real experienced with it. You know like if he had a girl before you maybe she was kind of bossy. And if he says sorry and wants to try to work it out then stay with him a little longer and see how it works out, but if he agrees with you and doesn't feel close either, then both of you go on your way. And if in a couple of months things don't change, then go for
Trevor. If he really does have feelings for you he will be there if things don't work out with you and James.
2007-02-28 11:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by sexsports_fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in your exact situation. you and james jumped into a relationship too fast. that's why it's not working out. if you want it to work out with james you guys should become friends to get to know each other more. it all depends on who you care about more. trevor seems like your match and since you got to know him first before you got together makes it great. but just let james know that something is missing. take some time off to think about what you truly want and make your decision final. i would say go for trevor because james doesn't make you feel complete. you have to be happy, and if he doesn't make you happy then it's not meant to be. he'll be hurt, but just talk things over with him and he'll understand.
2007-02-28 11:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by kimcml 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your friends perspective on your relationships dictate the decisions you make in a case like this.
This is basically high school drama that no matter which way you go, you'll have forgotten about it by the time you're 20 (most likely). I'd say go ahead and see what happens with Trevor. Don't waste your time with somebody you're not really into just because your friends think you're "perfect together". You're friends don't care that much anyways. They're probably just trying to be nice.
2007-02-28 11:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by gibsonpyro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a hard situation. I suggest sitting down with James and having a honest conversation with him. He will respect you for your honesty. Let him know that you want to be friends (if you do). I was in a situation with a guy and I didnt have the feelings for him like he did for me. He told me that he appreciated my honesty and for ending it before he got more invested into the relationship.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 11:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to James, and tell him you think somethings missing. See what comes of that before you do anything else.
2007-02-28 11:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by Weston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're able to make him jealous and comprehend what he neglected out on. He thinks he has you in his returned pocket good now. as quickly as you tutor him which you dont want him and you're shifting on with another guy then he will take you extra severe. To the previous poster "ME" she shouldn't call him returned crying asserting how jealous she became and how she needs him. She needs to try this strategies-blowing opposite. enable that guy comprehend that she would not want him, and bypass on with another guy. he will appreciate her extra and he will GET JEALOUS. Then perchance they are in a position to artwork issues out. Oh its uncomplicated, in basic terms meet a stunning guy thats 0.5 way beautiful and start up off stunning out with him and going places. Doesnt could be something severe, in basic terms something to enable the different guy comprehend youre not questioning approximately him and he will take extra of interest to you and take you extra heavily understanding he doesnt have you ever in his returned pocket.
2016-10-16 23:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by console 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋