A friend of mine is researching how parents that were abused as children can sometimes be abusers to their own children. She doesn't have access to a computer and asked for my help. I need websites that I can go to and print off for her. Does anyone on here know of any??
Also part of her research is to ask different people if they believe it is true that the abuse does carry on to the next generation. I would greatly appreciate if someone can help me to help my friend.
2007-02-28 11:15:56 · 6 answers · asked by M.S. Mom 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Behavior patterns are learned, however, they don't determine behavior. The person attempting to break the cycle, CAN and should do so.
www.family.org is a Christian site with LOTS of stuff for families.
There are also pregnancy centers everywhere that help with parenting skills. You might also try the local hospital wellness group. They often have free parenting classes. She might also try M.O.P.S International. They have mother's groups in many churches and are a good resource for healthy friends and support.
2007-02-28 11:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl Durham, Ph.D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a child from abusive parents, I know this was my greatest fear when I was pregnant - I do feel the desire to be violent with my children at times, when I just can't take it anymore, but have so far managed to either put them in another room for a bit or go into my own room and calm down. I am happy to say that I have never hit my kids, and now believe I never will.
My parents were both extremely abusive, as were their parents, I don't know how much further it went, though.
Feel free to e-mail for more info if you want, jennyedoll@yahoo.ca
2007-02-28 19:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say I was abused, but I was on the receiving end of some horrible spankings that were, I believe, done out of anger and not for constructive discipline...and I have always had a desire to lash out at others, even though with years of bullying I have never had the courage to. There are times when I have to fight to keep my cool though. I wonder if it hadn't been for those smacks, would I have the same problem now...
I don't know of any websites, sorry, but I'm sure others will help you out with those.
2007-02-28 19:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a household of EXTREME abuse, and if anything I am the opposite of my mother. It may be because she was an alcholic and I won't drink a drop because of that. I do tend to get overly emotional (I cry and get very defensive very easily) with other adults in arguments but I never feel violent urges, and never get angry toward my daughter who's 2. I think when faced with heated situations I almost act like I did as a child. I may be an exceptio to the rule, but as I stated I think the abuse made me the opposite kind of parent, and when I say it was extreme abuse I can justify it because it shocked other people in a group I went to help us deal with our feelings, mine was the "worst" of about 30.
2007-03-01 01:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Klara♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my grandma's mom was never ever abusive to her and she turned out normal and she never abused my om but she had 4 other children and my mom never had the nicest clothes or anything so people made fun of her and she never had many friends...My biological dad did abuse her though...
She also abuses me so...i guess what your friends trying to prove is kinda true...
good luck and please find a way to stop abuse!
2007-02-28 19:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by sunny dyas girly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I was beat and verbalized and yes I had an impulse to do it to my kids...but I got help and turned out to be a pretty good mom
2007-02-28 19:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋