my ex-girlfriend broke up with me and said it would be better if we were friends and then a few weeks later, she started going out with a 30 year old. the first thing that popped into my mind was that i think its wrong for that to happen. it was the first youngest person he'd been with. i just thought he couldnt get a girl his own age and had to act desperate to go out with a 16 year old. and she said she wants to marry him and i just laughed and said it wasnt goin to happen. i just want to know your opinion and ive asked a couple people how they feel going out with someone 20 years older than them and they also said it was wrong.
2007-02-28 10:55:27 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she said she wanted someone mature and she said that older people would be more mature than people her age. i told her it was wrong and she said that she didnt care. "we both love each other and thats all that matters" wtf ever i just think that its wrong. she is crazy but i still want to be with her and if she finds out if i tell anyone about this thing then she wouldnt be friends with me anymore. is it a risk i should take or not?
2007-02-28 11:10:56 · update #1
NO $HIT SHERLOCK!!
I would close the door and move on; Granted it is not easy. She is either trying to make you jealous, or she has completely gone off the deep end..She will eventually come to regret it...But DON'T be the doormat for her....
2007-02-28 10:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy Dearest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong because of her level of immaturity. There is a lot of manipulation that can take place on both a physical and emotional level in a relationship where the age difference is that extreme...especially since she is a teenager. This relationship isn't wrong because he's desperate, but also because he has an advantage over her being that much older. He knows things about life that she won't know for years. He is using her. He doesn't need a sixteen-year-old girlfriend any more than she needs a thirty-year-old boyfriend. I am married to a man who is 11 years older than me, but I didn't date him until I was nearly out of college. She should be having fun right now, not considering marriage. Tell this girl to wait 5-10 years before making a committment like that. I know she won't think she will learn that much about life in the next 5 years, but you'd be surprised how much just leaving home changes you.
2007-02-28 11:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 17, I got together with a 37 year old. It lasted for 7 years and I left him because I just changed so much in those years. I'm 35 now, and in retrospect, it wasn't the best thing to do. We never could find friends in common either. I'm not saying a relationship like that can't work out, anything is possible, but from my experience, the odds aren't that great in their favor. I don't think it's right for a 30 year old to be hooking up with a 16 yo either. She's just too young not to mention illegal. He should go to jail.
2007-02-28 11:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as they don't have any sexual contact or kissing they will be ok. But if he touches her wrong he can go to jail, because it's against the law for them to act sexually to each other even if she's willing. Because been a minor her parents are her legal guardians and can have him put in jail for having relations with a minor. So if they are doing it he better stop and she has no say to it neither, till she's an adult.
2007-02-28 11:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you are right to be concerned
i am not against relationships with age gaps per se but when one is say under 25 and the other is 15 years older (like 40 or so) then i think their compatibility rate is between slim to none
yes older folks can appear to be where young folks want to be - ut consider this - if that 30yo was all that they why isnt he already spoken for?
2007-02-28 11:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Aslan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its right for a 30yr old to date anyone of high school age. Its wrong, because the 16yr old has no idea the role they play in that relationship. Its purely for sex, or the 30yr old needs a naive person to deal with.
2007-02-28 11:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by mk6802 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately in most states it is not illegal i wish it was. 16 year olds think they know everything. But you would think the 30 year old would know better. Unfortunately. there are a lot of perverted stupid men out there. And he must be a real looser if he can't get a women his own age.
2007-02-28 11:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, i'm fairly advantageous it is against the regulation... in the event that they have been going out for 5 years, which potential they began dating while she became into 11 and he became into 25. that isn't precise. it is creepy and unusual. i think of he's in simple terms utilising her for something i do no longer additionally be responsive to. Creeper Perv...
2016-10-02 03:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by catharine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is strange you don't know what they are thinking they might be in love.. and yes he is to old for her in my opinion.. Its a different world now things are going on now that I've never herd of in my time. Good luck sounds like you still like her....
2007-02-28 11:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by ralphtheartist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's right to date a 30-year-old. Heck! I don't even think it's legal! Personally, if you really like this girl, woman, than I think you could give it a try.
2007-02-28 11:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by roxy<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋