what can i do if an ex won't move out and threatens to destroy or burn property ? trying to keep it friendly.

Question

she's made very little monetary contribututions (no rent) during the relationship of 3 years and doesn't work. she cared for me during a serious surgery recovery. i found out that she has been putting my signature on checks made out to her from my account and has been making my life miserable so i'm ending it. i've asked her to move out almost a month ago. she's now asking me to loan her $xxx,000.00 so she can get a house to live in. i would be willing to help her get a place and pay a couple thousand to get her moved. she has made threats to say untrue things about me to make things difficult for me for me in the future. i don't think ending it on good terms will be possible. any suggestions or advice appreciated.

Answer 1

First of all, what she did is considered a FELONY (by stealing your financial information, FRAUDULENTLY signing your name to the checks, and making purchases -- and it is ALSO Identity Theft), and given that she is already threatening to damage/destroy your property -- YOU need to call the police and (YES!) demand charges be pressed .. and by all means, take the CHECKS she FRAUDULENTLY SIGNED and turn them over to the POLICE so that she can be APPROPRIATELY PROSECUTED for the CRIMES!

YOU 'owe' her NOTHING ... she, however, has committed multiple felonies (according to this posting). DO get a restraining order, DO go to the police and DEMAND she be served with a TRESPASS ORDER, DO get some help to pack up HER personal belongings, and yes, DO get the help (and pay for about 3 months of rental locker storage) to put HER boxed up property from YOUR home so that she has AMPLE time to RETRIEVE her property from there.

DO take photos of your property -- inside and outside of your home, including clear photos of your appliances and everything else -- including and right down to what is in your drawers ... and make a backup copy on a CD rom of this Digital Images, and give to a trusted friend, neighbor, or place a copy in your Safe Deposit Box.

At this point, your chance of having things end on 'good terms' is ZERO ... so make sure you have EVIDENCE of what you own in the home in your possession.

DO NOT loan her or give her any more money -- period. This is just a nasty, gold-digging, well, I'll stop here because it is obvious with the posting that she took your checkbook and signed your name to checks that the ONLY thing she was interested in was YOUR bankbook balance and YOUR property in the first place.

Answer 2

First off, you owe her nothing. She lived rent free for nearly three years and her taking care of you can be compensation for some of that rent. Secondly, identity theft is a crime. Forging your signature constitutes as such. File a police report about her threats, have her escorted off the property (since she's paid nothing on her end) and file a Protective order. If you want to, you can sue her for the money that she's stolen. All you have to do is get the copies from your bank of the canceled checks and statements as proof. Hopefully, that will help

Answer 3

If you are trying to keep it friendly and she is making threats, this isn't going to end well for you! You have NO obligation to help her move out. She needs to get a job on her own and get her own place. She can live with a friend for now but she knew a month ago that she was going to have to support herself.

If your name is the only one on your house, call the police and tell them that she has made threats to burn your house down. If she is in jail she wont have to worry about finding a place to stay ;) j/k

She has stolen money from you and spent it on who knows what! (She could have spent it on an apartment). you have been supporting her even when you had a serious surgery. Her care and your financial support balance each other out. Don't feel like you owe her! I know this may seem mean but she doesn't seem like she deserves anything from you.