Depressed from death?

Question

I recently lost someone ... He passed away from an automobile accidents on Jan .7 .07
We were very very close....
I miss him dearly....he is my hero and everything to me.
I had lost my relative, a friend and my Grandma in the past....but the pain is nothing like this one.


at first ...i was just crying...then it got easier...but then, when it was his Birthday...it got even worst....
Now i'm depressed, i dont want to live and every second of my head is filled with his memories and i keep asking myself : why and why does He (God) take him away??

I was wondering if any of you had this kind of experience?
how long does it take you to get over the death of your loved ones? were you depressed and suicidal?

Answer 1

My husband and I were only married 4 yrs when he suddenly died. I was so lonely for him and I would cry so much and I hurt terribly. It took me a while to realize that God did not take him from me, that he and I were not being punished. It was just a tragic mistake by the doctor that caused him to die. Yes, I still miss him after 4 yrs now. I miss him every day. But many good things happened too. Several people are alive today because my husband was an organ donor and now I have all these new friends who love and appreciate him as much as I did and they never even met him. I concentrate on the good memories and the good things he did and the good things we did together and I know he is a guarian angel now. You are here for a reason. Try finding a way to help someone else by being a mentor or volunteering somewhere. Give a donation in his name to remember him. You will always carry him in your heart. In time the pain will pass, trust me, and trust God to help you.

Answer 2

I lost a dear friend in 1994 who was like a second mom to me even though she wasn't old enough to be my mom. She died from cardiac arrest resulting from a drug overdose. She was the one person I could talk to about anything. I was devastated and cried and cried. To this day its hard for me to believe she's really gone. I've had dreams where she's alive and it was all a mistake and it seems so real that I don't want to wake up. The pain has lessened over the years and now I think of the great memories I have of her. The pain of losing a friend like this will never go away, but you can move on. The lesson I took away from my tragedy is to live your life to the fullest everyday. I had been with the father of my daughter for almost five years when my friend died. Her death made me realize that I wanted to marry this man and raise our family together. We got married 2 1/2 months later and we've been married now for over 12 years and also have a son. There is light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to trust in yourself and the strength God gave you to survive this. Don't lose hope, because your friend would want you to be happy and live the life that he was unable to live. God Bless!

Answer 3

I am 18 and have been to over twenty funerals in my life, including one two days ago. the one thing that has helped me is this, I know that it is only their body that is dead, not their spirit, I will see them again and when I do, it will be in a place far better than this. Perhaps the Father allowed him to die because he needed him more.

Sadly, the pain never goes away fully, it lessens with time until all you can remember are the good times.

Your friend would not want you to mourn his passing like this, he would want you to live life to the fullest for him. If you continue to have suicidal thoughts, you should contact someone who can help. Best wishes.

Answer 4

Your pain is real and it will believe me get easier as time goes by. I know people are always saying that but believe me it is true,
Yes i have lost someone dear to me in the past and the pain was unbearable at first.
I used to collapse in the bathroom and just cry until i didn't have a tear left. You have to give yourself time to grieve, but don't think about those crazy thoughts about you not wanting to live. That is not going to bring him back and i don't think he would want you think like that.
Like i said it will get easier in time. Time heals
wounds. You will always be thinking about him but in time when his birthday comes around you can think of all the happy times you had.
God didn't do this sweetie, Blaming him won't help you any, but praying might.
I will be praying for you and remember time heals. Give it some time.

Answer 5

Yes, I have had similar feelings like you have - why did it happen, why did god take them away from me, what could I have done differently, but for me those thoughts did change over time to the good times we spent together and I get a bit of a giggle now when I think of something funny they said or did. Time will make things a little easier for you, how long it takes varies from person to person.

Answer 6

John Lennon's became worse because of the fact he became murdered. yet i think of the biggest action picture star dying in (my own residing memory) became Princess Di, her dying became extensive all the television station's closed down and broadcast in basic terms what became happening (very resembling 9/11 yet not as huge). In asserting that Michael Jackson's dying continues to be a super ask your self and that i'm confident human beings would be mourning for a while.

Answer 7

It probably wont get over. But the thing is those misses and sadness soon become memories, sweet and live forever.
I lost my brother. I lost my best friend.

Answer 8

my brother was killed by a drunk driver and the year after was very rough. i had nightmares and thought about ending it. my mother went to the state insane asylum and my father chose to be a work acholic. life sucks but some times if you can make it to the next day all seems much better.

Answer 9

Hang in there and remember that his death was to bring you life. He would want you to move on and to understand that to die is to live with Christ..

He is resting AND since you are alive, he wants you to continue to live, love and laugh.

Hang in there girl and do not give up on life. We need you!

Answer 10

so sorry for what happened to your friend,
Everything in life is born so small and grows up by time,
except death pain , is born so big and it gets smaller and smaller as time pass, time cures everything , have faith and be strong...