are all men like this?

Question

ok so my BF and i broke up because i hugged my bestfirend, who happens to me a guy, so we got into this huge fight and i broke up with him, was that wrong? and then i found out that he had been talking a bunch of crap about me, and our whole relationship of like a year and a laf was a lie, and that when he sapposedly "loved" me he was telling other girls how much he loved them...not cool, i trused this boy, like no other, he was my bestfriend, so this makes me wonder,are all men like this? or just mine? and how do you know if you can trust them or not? should i just give up all together?

thank you.

Answer 1

He thinks exactly as I would think, that you were cheating on him. He is just channeling his anger and heart-broken-ness through actions and words. He deserves another chance, and don't listen to everone saying that he was a "rotten apple", put yourself in his shoes. What would you think if he was doing what you were doing. Thats all. You should talk to him, he just thinks that you hate him or something, thats the reason why.

Answer 2

Q:"ok so my BF and i broke up because i hugged my bestfirend, who happens to me a guy, so we got into this huge fight and i broke up with him, was that wrong?"

A: It's not wrong to hug your best friend. However you need to realise that most men don't like the idea that your best friend is a male. Obviously that's not your fault but you need to consider what kind of actions will hurt your (ex)boyfriend.

Yes, it is selfish, but that's what relationships are about. Compromise and forgiveness. If he couldn't accept some facts about you, you need to make some decisions on what's more important, the relationship of your own opinions.

If there already exist many problems between you two, this incident only acts as a trigger to breaking up. It's just too difficult to maintain the relationship. However, if you two were just fine before this incident, you may have made some important decisions too quickly.

Q: "when he sapposedly "loved" me he was telling other girls how much he loved them...not cool, i trused this boy, like no other, he was my bestfriend, so this makes me wonder,are all men like this? or just mine? and how do you know if you can trust them or not? should i just give up all together?"

A: This problem is much more serious than the former. If he is telling other girls that he loves them, he is obviously considering possibilties of starting a new relationship with another (w/o ending the current one). This may have happened because he was seeing instabilty in the current relationship and is trying to find 'insurance' by trying to start new ones. Chances are, if you stay with him... and you two have unresolved problems, he would do the same thing again.

My advise is, take some time being alone and think about what went wrong in the relationship. There might be certain aspects of yourself that needs to be changed to prevent the same things from happening again in the future.

Answer 3

Just remember this for your future relationships any time a guy starts a fight with you about stupid things like that then that always means that he is doing something wrong himself, so since you did break up with him that is a good thing cause look at what he was doing to you, and you would have never known if this whole thing would have never happened. Don't give up on men it was that one you just picked one of the wrong ones. I have found a couple of good ones. You just need to look for the signs of the friend ship or relationship. That will tell you who you can and can't trust. have very open eyes and ears

Answer 4

Men are like a box of chocolates: Sometimes you get nutty ones, sometimes you get crappy ones, but you'll love the day you pick one of the good ones. No there not all the same. NO ONE is the same, and you know that.

Dont give in to questions and answers that are for the soul purpose of making you feel --safer-- with people [or anything else for that matter]. People, men, women, asians, caucasions, blacks, whites, WHATEVER! People are all different. Good things happen, bad things happen, wierd things happen. Whether or not I tell you men are all alike, a cheaters always a cheater, people are hopeless-- wouldnt have any more or less value then me telling you that all people are good souls and innocent darling angels! No philosiphy, however comforting, can cure reality: anything can happen.

So, my answer to you is: get your *** out there and find that soul mate! Just relax and have fun, and trust YOURSELF. good luck!

Answer 5

Not all men are like this. But maybe he is only telling you that he told other girls things because he mad at you and wants you to feel the exact way he did when he saw you hugging a guy (which was fine in every way possible) He probably doesn't deserve you if he has nerves to talk about you not nicely and you will find the man of your dreams sooner or later who respects you in every shape and form and understands that when you hug another guy it means nothing.
So basically, breaking up with him might be a good decision, because when he says he was mad for hugging someone else, it seems like a sign of controllness. i don't think you want someone to choose who you are allowed to hug or not.

Answer 6

Sounds like you just found a guy that was not worth much as a boyfriend, maybe OK to say hi too, that's about it. I wouldn't give up, just keep an open mind, you'll learn as you go. There are nice guys out there, just have to find them, or maybe they will find you.

Answer 7

No, all men aren't like this. You just got a bad egg. Don't worry about it, and chalk it up for experience. This guy has got issues, and he probably would have hurt you in the long run anyway. So I think you were right about breaking up with him. Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

sume guys are likke that, but not all.
just likke sume chickks are mene and hartless but there are still some nice ones out there.

I am nott hittin on you or nothing but i wuldn't treat any gurl that way, particuly one i said i lovded. if he got mad becuse you hugged a friend dude he is too pussessive and jelous.

the whole hartache of datting is takking a risk. it dudn't always work out, but you pickk yourself up and move on. Put this jurk in the rere view mirrore and find anothur guy stat.

i wishe you welle. ;)

Answer 9

okay not all men are like that. but the problem is that the ones that are decent, kindhearted. you will never fall for until you are much older and if you are one of the lucky ones that do end up with the person that will treat you like a queen, wither you deserve it or not, you will realize that you have wasted many years on the wrong ones.

Answer 10

Yeah some are, my ex Andy was similar to this... well, he didn't cheat on me, but it turns out while we were going out, he liked 2 others girls but I may have misunderstood. Oh, and if my bff would never had told me that she thought Andy liked her, then Andy and I would still be together! ANYWAYS, I am really sorry about this, and you made a good choice by breaking up with him.