An interesting thing happened to me last night... While i was sleeping, someone felt the need to take a blade to the rag-top on my jeep. they cut it up and then left. nothing was stolen, just the top was damaged. at first i was furious, then my anger faded away as i knew that it would soon be fixed. now, i'm not even angry about it. part of me tells me that i should be angry and hateful of those that did it, but i just dont feel the need to experience hate because of it. it was a useless endevor to those that did it, and although it will cost me to get it fixed, i just cant be angry about it anymore. How do you deal with playing the role of 'victim'? Do you react, or respond to your situation?
2007-02-28 10:19:59 · 6 answers · asked by -skrowzdm- 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
jewishgirl - thought about that, at first i was feeling vengeful; then that too faded - if i met them now, i might not even care
2007-02-28 10:26:45 · update #1
thanks randyg - i did not know that
2007-02-28 10:28:58 · update #2
Not since Saturday night after I met this girl. I played the victim and......oh, I think I read this one wrong. Sorry.
2007-02-28 10:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love playing the victim. As soon as I'm caught doing something wrong, or being negligent, I go right to victim mode. Yeah, I took a long lunch break. Is that a problem. Is this about you being an anti-semite? I demand an apology.
Then I keep demanding an apology really loud until I get one, even though I'm the one who did something wrong.
(And I'm not Jewish, but I silence all criticism by yelling about anti-semitism. What's good for the goose.)
2007-02-28 18:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
growl about for a few minutes (posting this question is probably a really healthy way to vent) then move forward. i'm assuming your use of the word "someone" means you don't know who did it. whatever you do, don't try to come up with some big conspiracy theory about who's to blame, i don't think this is helpful and just puts out ugly energy on your part. i do find karma is a very comforting thought in these situations usually once i remember that i have experienced it i can calm down.
2007-02-28 18:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by mommynow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to catch myself before I let it go too far. When I've been working long hours and I'm tired, it's easier to get into that mode when things go wrong. Mostly, though, I just try remember that $*&^ happens to everyone, and I'm not special that way! Life goes on, and tomorrow it will be better.
I might have a small reaction, then get it under control; but mostly, I give myself 'think' time before I respond.
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2007-02-28 18:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by milomax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the U.S., theft and vandalism losses are tax deductions on your itemized form. Save your receipts and have a good night!
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BTW, make sure that you get a copy of the police report too. And you cannot claim it as a loss if your insurance company paid you for it (but your deductible on your insurance should still be considered a "causality" for tax purposes). Ask an expert in tax preparation.
2007-02-28 18:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
would you have reacted any differently if you actually knew the identities of those who did it?
EDIT - does your insurance cover it? because on the bright side, you might get a brand spanking new paint job and then you can send the vandals a thank you note and ask them to please come again in a few months when you're bored with your new colour.
2007-02-28 18:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋