Are we making the right decision? Are son is an awesome player and our family really enjoy watching him play.?

Question

We have two little ones, girl and boy, ages 6 & 5, who want to play t-ball. My husband coached our son last year and didn't take our girl serious when she said she wanted to play tball this year. Dilemma is that team is too full to add another player. My husband decided that it wouldn't be fair to let our son play and not our daughter--it was his fault that he didn't take our girl serious and signed her up. So, my husband decided to take our boy off the team and accepts that we would wait til next year to sign them both up. I am proud of my husband's decision to not choose our boy over our girl. But, the rest of the family, my husbands' father and brother, have thrown a fit. My father inlaw lives for our little boy and doesn't see why our son has to be punished for our mistake of not signing up our girl--my husband stands firm on his decision that if he can't coach both of them on the same team, then neither would play. While everyone else sees it as unfair--we agree that this is the best thing. is this the best decision, or are we wrong?" in Yahoo! Answers

Answer 1

I agree that it is totally unfair.
The son did nothing wrong, but now he is being punished because his father wants to cover up his mistake. Maybe dad should just deal with the fact that he screwed his daughter over and remember not to do it again next year.
Now you are just screwing over both kids, neither of which deserves it.

Answer 2

Thats a tough one, but I'm not a fan of girls and boys playing sports together but I guess thats common these days based on your question. I don't see it as a huge issue, you can find other things to develop the kids physically etc., I mean t-ball is about as critical to the development of a baseball player as swimming is to a tuba player so really not much is lost here. Don't give in to the rest of the family whatever you do though, at this point. They can't be allowed to throw fits and control your lives. The kids are so young they probably don't even know what's going on.

Answer 3

You sound like good parents-Trust your( and hubby's)decision and stick to it. You've already made it. The little girl should have been considered from the first but you know how men are with their daughters ( I used to be one!). Find a sport for him and another for her. That way there is no competition, Daddy's happy and the kids have their sport. Good luck.

Answer 4

What does your son think?

What does your daughter think?

The rest of the family's opinion, though unfortunate, is not really the important thing IMHO.

If your husband's intent was to be fair to the children, the important thing is whether or not THEY understand that fairness is important to their parents and governs their parents' decisions.

Answer 5

Taking your son off a team wont stop him from playing will it? Its not like he's gonna stop playing altogether for a year

Answer 6

let your kids live their life and experience it their way