I have been going out with this guy for about 2 weeks now and I like him a lot! I usually don;t like to snog or hug him because I don't really find him to be that attractive.. :( This makes me feel REALLY bad. When we go out I always notice other guys.
I do like a lot but he's not that good looking so I feel bad whenever I think about how much he likes me
Should I brake up w/ him or no?? I just wanted to know wot some random people thought out there
Am I a bad person for even thinking about it?
2007-02-28 10:13:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you really don't like him. Be honest with yourself and him and find someone else.
2007-02-28 10:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by revsoccer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u already know in your heart that u could never have a long term relationship with this guy. if u feel this way after 2 weeks, then there is very little chance that things will improve over time. u need to end this before this guy gets any more hurt than is necessary. u are not a bad person for feeling this way, u would only be a bad person if u continued with this relationship. it's not fair to either one of u. try to let the guy down gently. no need to squash his ego by saying that u don't find him attractive. just say that u are at a difficult point in your life, and u don't think that u can give him the love or the commitment that he deserves. good luck.
2007-02-28 10:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i dont think you are bad person at all but i would like u to be honest about how you feel, 2 weeks should not break any hearts,
I know it sucks cuz alot of the times we lose these people that were interested on us because we didnt want them the same way, but hey our show has to continue and I am sure he is gonna be more dissapointed if he actually sees u make out with another dude when he thinks u are interested
I d be honest and let him know that u like him as a friend not a bf
Good luck
2007-02-28 10:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by yety21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt like this with my ex. I really liked him but just wasn't attracted to him i used to look at other guys to. i wish now that i ended it, it the beginning because he got to involved and i just couldn't feel the same as he felt for me. and i really ended up hurting him which i feel shocking about. So i really feel if threes no attraction there then end it now before u hurt him. and ya not a bad person at all. but it would b easier to finish sooner rather than later.
2007-02-28 20:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't 'feel' the way that someone wants you to, or the way you think you 'ought' to, then ~ do not sweat over it.
If you don't like the flavour of a food or drink, then you don't like it, it's as simple as that. I hate the smell of Indian food, but that does not make their food bad or me an awful person.
I get the idea that you'd like to be seen as 'the bad person,' but if I'm wrong, then I'm wrong. But not feeling / being the way another wants or needs is just the luck of the draw.
Best of luck in the draw.
Sash.
2007-02-28 11:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey.you need to brake up with him because obviously looks are important to you and if your not attracted to him in a b/f or sexual way he needs to know sooner rather than later how u feel-just be friends so no-one gets hurt in the long run he deserves someone who feels the same way he feels for you right..No u shouldn't feel bad cuz if u tell hI'm now your being honest and im sure he would want to know how u really feel. jennie...smiles
2007-02-28 10:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really seems like there is a lack of connection between you two. Usually when you like someone a lot, what you see on the inside begins to show on the outside too. And maybe you like him but maybe you need to give it more time or find somebody else.
2007-02-28 10:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Odessa Fraser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
David, its not your fault if you don't like him. Just try to go out with but if it really bothers you, don't force yourself. Remember there are plenty of other guys out there that will make you feel great. Maybe you just want to be friends with him but not as a boyfriend. But keep in mind that if it hinders your relationship with him then just break-up because its not fair to either of you. Think of how he feels when you look at other guys.
2007-02-28 10:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're not really attracted to him. That in itself doesn't make you a bad person, we cant help who we like and don't like.
However, staying with him out of obligation, guilt or just the need to be an item is wrong. It may upset him if you tell him you're not attracted to him but its better than leading him on and letting him develop stronger feelings for you and you not reciprocating them.
2007-02-28 10:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not make you bad, but if you can't hug him or show him affection, you are only hurting him in the long run. move on and find some one else. and let him do the same. why stay in a relationship if you are not really happy. you both deserve happiness, and if it can't be together than it has to be with someone else. good luck. enjoy your life.
2007-02-28 10:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him that's great so you can be friends but if he really isn't your type you shouldn't date him. What I mean by not being your type is that you look at other guys. You are not a bad person at all and I just wanted you to know that.
2007-02-28 10:18:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋