I've asked so many questions on here but I love to hear others views. Me and my ex of 7 years broke up and he moved 2000 miles away..Well, he moved before we broke up..I know there isn't another woman. I am pregnant with his child and we are very young...22 & 23. We had our wedding planned before the baby. Dr. said I would never be able to have kids..my ex wanted one and I ended up getting pregnant. We wasn't trying because of what the Dr. told me. He was very excited while I was kind of depressed because I wanted to be married and have my degree. Now, I wish he comes back and I know alot of people thinks that is stupid. We had a pretty good relationship, His father walked out on him as a baby. He tells me he misses me and loves me but picks stupid fights..Does distance really make the heart grow fonder?? I told him last night we shouldn't talk until we clear our heads..Has this every happened to anyone?
2007-02-28 10:10:30 · 9 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am concentrated on my baby..I'm very excited.
2007-02-28 10:10:51 · update #1
It isn't the distance that is making the heart grow fonder. It the "you don't know what you've got until you've lost is syndrome" Sometimes people don't realize how much they care for each other until they are gone. You are having a baby with this guy and you do have seven years of history together. Unless there is any type of serious problems between the 2 of you then I say you should try to work it out and give your relationship another shot. If you love him and if he still loves you, then why not. Maybe marriage is still in your cards after the baby is born. You should be together enjoying the pregnancy and he should move closer to be with his child, even if things don't work out relationship wise, he still has a child on the way that he needs to be a father of. If he is living 2000 miles away, there is no way he can be the type of father that this baby needs. So he really should consider moving closer, and then you guys can start over and see where it takes you.
2007-02-28 10:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by MRod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he knew that you was having his baby and still moved 2000 miles away that should tell you something. Just because he's not there doesn't mean your child will be less loved. I am a mother of one and having another in august and my children's father left after I told him we was going to have another baby. (This is after we had a bad miscarriage and almost lost me too.)
I just wonder if my guy was scared to loose me. Maybe your guy isn't ready to be a father. If he truly loves you and the baby he will come back, but I think that you are problem a very strong woman and can handle being a single mom.
2007-02-28 18:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by mammagin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actions speak louder than words! If he's 2000 miles away and picks fights what does that tell you. Wake up girl and start filling out the paperwork so he can pay child support. Don't listen to what he says, pay attention to what he does. You're young enough, concentrate on childcare for your baby and getting yourself some emotional and financial support. Distance makes the heart grow fonder to a point...but remember the saying "out of sight out of mind." Sorry to be harsh but life bites. Good luck with raising your child and I hope this guy steps up to the plate if he's going to be a real "dad."
2007-02-28 18:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by dancergalny 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you've been together for 7 years, you obviously know eachother very well. If you were told you couldn't have kids, then this is a blessing. Me and now my husband were together for only 6 weeks before i got pregnant with our eldest, we never thought about getting married until about 3 years ago, and finally married in Nov 2006. so if you know you are soul mates, make this work, because there's nothing wrong with having your children present at your wedding, and furthering your career when your older, after all, we are now married, have two sons and a third baby on the way. good luck
2007-02-28 18:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by SUSANNE B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be at least close by however it seems like you dont want him or the baby. Not saying just guessing. Tell him how you feel he seems like he wants to be there so let him not everyone has a father for there baby grow up and realize the little fights are stupid and show him when you are arguing how it is immature you both are about to be parents and want to be good role models for your baby.ood luck
2007-02-28 18:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to start out, your NOT "very young." A ton of people have kids much, much younger. Tell him that he better make a decision whether he wants to be part of the child life before the baby is born. It's not good to have a part time dad.
2007-02-28 18:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by twisteddistance 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i think of it like this you either want him or you don't and vice versa.
In a split second you should know this and if you don't then maybe you don't want him. Good luck!
2007-02-28 18:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop talking to him and see what happens
the more you hold on the harder he pulls away
if he loves you he will come home
2007-02-28 18:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it hasnt at least not me but you should get counseling or talk it out with an experienced person who has gone through this.....
2007-02-28 18:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by morenosenorita 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋