I know what the Bible says about honoring thy Father & Mother and I'm not disputing that. My question is, if a person has never met their real Father & their Mother didn't want them & gave them up for adoption, then comes back in their life when they're in their 30's, after they were raised by loving adoptive parents, do they have to honor their drug addicted birth mom who only "loves" them because she needs money?
2007-02-28 09:53:53 · 5 answers · asked by Tender Hearted 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your birth mother needs your prayers, that is how you can honor her. She also needs your forgiveness, even if she never asks for it.
Stuff like this is hard to do, but we are called by God to follow Him. Thank God for your adoptive parents and pray for your birth parents.
Hang in there - following God is not always the easiest thing, but it is the best thing. Without forgiveness toward those who have hurt us, we tend to let bitterness grow and take root.
2007-02-28 10:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by redeemed 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course not. I don't believe in really honoring your father and mother either way, though. This comes from experience, as my parents are not good people and were not good examples. When I rebelled against them as a teenager, it was the right thing to do. I realize that now as an adult. Everyone who is of the age to make logical decisions (which, I believe, can be as young as 10), should be allowed to make those decisions on their own if they desire. And, BTW, a lot of drug addicts keep their children. Do you think a 14-year-old with a parent who is a bad example should honor them? There are a lot of bad parents out there. Just because you are able to pro-create doesn't mean you are a good person/example.
2007-02-28 10:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters, Honor your parents in the Lord. So if your parents tell you to rob a bank, or purchase drugs, etc. that isn't "in the Lord".
Honor your parents so you may have long life. Honor isn't obeying parents to do an illegal activity for them. Honor is respecting your parents and not purchase the drugs for them. Honor your parents, even if they have a drug problem. Love them, walking in forgiveness. But don't be a helper of their drug problems.
Remember that you need to love your birth mom too. You need to forgive her, with Gods help.
2007-02-28 10:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by t_a_m_i_l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Still love your mother the way she is even though that happened. Are you a christian? Because you need to love her no matter what.
2007-02-28 10:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it is honoring people who will rise you up. And showing respect to older people who have more understanding, I hope. : )
2007-02-28 10:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋