do i still like him?

Question

i really don't know what to do. so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 months now. and i care about him. or i think i do. we're really close. or he thinks that we are. i just feel like a little bit of space. but i don't know how to tell him that. and i don't know if i want to still be with him or not. i'm just so confused. and i don't know what to do. he told me the other night that he was still thinking about a fight we had like a month ago, and i asked him if there was anything else he wanted to tell me that he was mad about, and he said no. then he asked me if i was thinking about anything that he should know about. i lied and said no. but i don't know what i would tell him. i'm his world. he's even said that. and we're still really young and i don't want it to be this serious. we're not going to be together forever. and he's getting so attached. what do i do? i don't know if i want to be with him or not. could someone please help me. i don't know what to do. help!

Answer 1

I don't know if you can like someone. I am not your conscious!!! If you like him you will know

Answer 2

Well since you are so young and have alot of time to date, i can see were you are coming from. But I cant help but think you are trying to get away from him because he is attaching himself to you. I would tell him you want to take off some time, see some other people because right now i am unsure of my feeling towards you. If you liked/loved him you would have no problem telling him that because you would trust him and would know he would be responsive to what ever you wanted to do. If he becomes upset with you, you will relize that he wasnt right for you. Better do it now before getting married because if you were in the same spot, you would have more of a delma. Say wat you asked to him. IF he loves you he will be reciptive towards your wishes. Then after you can see some other people and see what your true feelings. You mentioned something about being confused. EVERYONE is confused about something, but what makes a calm and fun/nice person depends on how you handle yourself. Everything always works out. Seeing how he responds will tell you what kinda guy he is, and with his answer, your feelings will be more certain. Good luck with everything, and I hope/no it will work out

Answer 3

I been through this excat same thing with my friend. She dated this guy in 5th grade! I am now in 11th and they are still together for 6 years. The same thing.. she wasn't sure after a few months she asked me what should she do i told her give herself a break tell him I am too young right now and i need to have fun since im just a kid... But she didn't do anything so now they are still together. I can tell you that she has no life. She sits and waits for him never does anything with her friends anymore its only him. Don't stay with him just say we need a break cause...my mom wants me to concentrate on school. Then if you feel like you miss him go back with him. He won't go anywhere. And plus this will show whether or not he cares to obey what you tell him or if he doesn't care anymore. You will Know what to do...

Answer 4

That's always hard. The first time that happened to me i chickened out and had a friend talk to my boyfriend. Don't do that though, it was a bad idea! Ask him where he thinks this relationship is going. Let him know he means so much to you, and you don't want to ruin things by going too fast. Set boundaries up like "We'll only talk for this amount of time on the phone a day." or "we'll only go on a date once a week." If you don't want to see other people, tell him that. Tell him that you think what you have is really special, and you're afraid to lose him so you want to take it a little slower...
good luck!

Answer 5

Relationships require good communications. The guy gets marks for telling you that he was still thinking about the fight. The least you can do, especially if you want to continue in the relationship, is be honest with him.

You have also answered your own question. You already know that the relationship is not going to be forever. At best he is fun to be with, but that is not the same as liking someone.

Answer 6

My friend. Whatever the problem is, you need to learn to present the problem to him in a gentle and non threatning manner, and you must tell him nothing but the truth - its very hard. Before you approach him, you must accept the fact he might not grant your request - if that is the case, be prepared to end this relationship.

You need a meet him at a quiet time just you and him, with no distractions, and get to the point. Use this formula:

1. I feel ____________ when _____________

Never say YOU. For example: I feel quite overwhelmed when we are together too much. I feel i really need some space.

2. Tell him why

3. I think he needs to understand you dont want this to be serious.

Then you are done: be quiet and listen to what he has to say. Try to accomdate to your ability without over compromising.

Again, if he wants to spend 10 hours a day together and you can't afford that, then you must prepare to leave.

Hope it helps :)

Answer 7

Oh wow...well...think about this: what made you wanna be with him in the first place? If you saw this as a non-permanent thing, did you tell him at the beginning of the relationship? If that's so, and you didnt, then you got off on the wrong foot babe. BE HONEST. Sometimes honesty comes back and kicks you in your a** but hey, at least your not being deceptive and eventually you'll get what you want. If you dont wanna be serious then the best thing to do is tell him your not looking for that type of relationship. I know that's hard to do, and there's no easy way to do it, so you just gotta suck it in and blurt it out...well...not BLURT it out...but SAY IT. The longer you take to confess your feelings, the deeper you dig your grave. Don't be stuck in the ditch forever, pull yourself out! GODD LUCK AND I HOPE THIS HELPS!
p.s.---evaluate your emotions very carefully. you can't depend on the advice of others...sometimes the best advice you can get is from yourself. But you gotta look at yourself from the outside in...no bias...

Answer 8

hi emy,am trying to figure it out anyways,,,well so ur bf said to u that u are his world and all that ,,but stil he reminds u of a particular fight,just tell him on his face thats the least u can do put ur step down and tell him ,,u aint doin charity is it....i know its damn hard but the more time u will spend together nomatter not mentally but physicall (not talkin abt sex alone)the more the guy is gonna get involved with u as u said he is already involved,,then u will wake up one day and hear him say come out coem out wherever u are !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! right and u dont wanna do that ,so gather up ya guts be honest and just think what worst can it happen if u tell the truth and what will happen if u dont,
well upto u now ,
take care
be good
god bless

Answer 9

I think you answered your own question already. "I don't want this to be serious. We're not going to be together forever" You may like him, and even care about him, but you're not in love with him. At least not in the way he seems to want you to be. You need to be honest with him about your feelings. You don't want to string along false emotional attachments. In the end, he'll resent you for it, and you will both go on to question whether or not future partners are being honest with you. Just be honest with yourself an then be honest with him.

Answer 10

Sounds like you need to take a little break!! Make plans for a few days that dont include him and do your own thing! That will def. help! You can sort your feelings out, decide whether you really do like him or not. If you think about him constantly then maybe you do. But if you can get by a few days without him and not think twice..maybe its time to move on. Good Luck!!

Answer 11

It's a little soon for him to be thinking of you as his world. It's only been three months. Maybe you feel this way because he's just jumped straight into things and he's kinda scaring you away. I say take your space or slow things down. If he doesn't understand that, then he's not even worth your time.