I dated this guy long distance on and off for about 6 months. Towards the end I moved to the same state as him but about 5 hours away to see what would happen and also to go to school. I hate the school I am at now and I want to transfer to another school. The school I want to transfer to is only about 1 1/2 hours from where my exboyfriend lives. We broke up about a month ago ( I ended it because I knew I didn't want to stay where I was but I needed to know that wherever I moved to was what I wanted and wasn't about him because he wasn't 'ready for a serious relationship'). But now when I tell people I'm moving there everyone thinks it is because of him. And if I run into him I know he will think the same . I don't want to get back together. I haven't called him since we broke up. I'd be friends but its up to him. I don't have any intention of calling him when i get down there. It really bothers me that my friends and family think I am going there because of him. What should I do?
2007-02-28 09:24:16 · 6 answers · asked by menau 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I shouldn't care what other people think, but it bothers me that EVERYONE thinks I am moving to get back with him. Should I not move there just because he is there? I did spend the whole summer in that are which is how I met him in the first place. I'm really not trying to get back with him, but is it rude/'against the rules' or whatever to move somewhere that is his territory?
2007-02-28 09:27:04 · update #1
I would not worry about what other people think. You have to do what is best for you. Go there and do what it is you desire. Leave the rest to God.
2007-02-28 09:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by ericatnn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna be 1 1/2 hours away. The chances of "running into him" are slim. If you think you will be happy at this school and in this area, move there. When you don't get back together with him, your friends/family will see that isn't your reasoning. Seriously, if you are happy with your decision, don't let other people's opinions ruin it for you. Go, be happy and have fun!
2007-02-28 17:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never move for anyone unless it's your husband. Give yourself some time before you try to be friends with him. Trying to be friends, right after a break up from someone you were in love with is like trying to put a band-aid on a bullet wound. It's not going to heal like that. You have to get it examined, get it patched up & then try moving on with your life. Only then can your wounds heal & then you'll be comfortable going back to place where you got shot...GET IT. Just let it go for now and do what you need to do for you.
2007-02-28 17:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to go to that school? If so then who cares what other people think. Live for yourself. Be honest with yourself. If people don't think you can make adult decisions for yourself then are they really your friends if they don't respect your decision? Everyone will change their toon when you go there and show them how happy you are and when you bring the NEW boyfriend home for thanksgiving.
2007-02-28 17:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mark W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't really care what you're friends and family think especially when it comes to you're feelings and relationships.
There is only one person's opinion I validate and that is my moms. No one's elses. Sure I'll listen and take them into consideration but if they were against me, it wouldn't matter because at the end of the day, it's still me who makes the decision...not them.
it's me who has to live my life not them. So...don't worry about it...
Good luck!
2007-02-28 17:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really no ones business, but if they do question your motives just make it clear that you havent contacted him since you broke up, you have moved on with your life and the move is for you and your future....
2007-02-28 17:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋